“Our thoughts create our beliefs, meaning if you think about yourself a certain way for a long enough period of time you will ultimately believe it.”
The belief “there is something wrong with me” is rampant among coaches, healing facilitators and their clients. In the beginning, this thought can lead you to great wisdom but if it’s not transcended it can turn into an endless void.
“And so enlightenment, fulfillment and lasting joy will continue to elude you because the thought “There is something wrong with me.” will still be ingrained in your subconscious mind.”
This thought is the NUMBER ONE blockage for you to experience true healing and transformation. As long as you believe there is something wrong with you, all attempts to heal yourself will be futile because it doesn’t matter how much progress you make, once you identify with the thought you will go back to that place where you feel you haven’t done enough or you haven’t got “there” yet.
The thought “There is something wrong with me” is the greatest limiting thought for those on the path of self-realization. If you believe there is something wrong with you then you will certainly believe there is something wrong with everyone else and this will keep you in a judgment karmic loop, blocking you from embodying unconditional love towards yourself and others.
It is extremely draining to constantly be scrutinizing yourself and others in attempts to find what is “wrong” with you or them. And as long as you have this belief you will ALWAYS find something wrong with you or other people even if there is nothing wrong. This is just the nature of your mind if you ask the mind “what is wrong with me” or “what is wrong with him” it will always give you an answer.
“Nothing else represents a greater obstacle for you to see the essence of yourself and others than this though, it is the ultimate blockage to self-love and joy.”
What usually ends up happening is that people who strongly believe there is something wrong with other people become rescuers and problem fixers. They always try to solve other people’s problems, give them unsolicited advice and try to rescue them.
Then they wonder why other people don’t want to be around them. They think they are good listeners but all they are doing is trying to find what is wrong and how to fix it, while the other person simply wants them to listen. This scenario is very common in all kinds of relationships, especially intimate relationships and client/coach relationships.
What you focus on grows, and so you end up finding more faults in others and yourself. Needless to say, the belief that there is something wrong with you and other people destroys relationships. Nothing can kill an intimacy between two people than this thought.
Your Brain Is A Computer
Every time you ask yourself ‘What is wrong with me?’ or ‘What am I doing wrong?’ your brain MUST give you an answer and show it to you. It is pretty much like typing a question on Google and hitting the ‘Search’ button. And even if there is really nothing wrong with you, your brain will still come up with an answer. So be careful what questions you feed your brain.
You don’t require to believe or think there is something wrong with you to change or heal. The word “wrong” is a label and you can choose to change something simply because is no longer serving you in order to become that version of yourself you wish to embody.
The main reason why people do workshop after workshop, certification after certification is because they believe this thought. And so the cycle of healing, repairing and fixing never ends because there is ALWAYS something else “wrong” with them.
Now don’t get me wrong (no pun intended), working on yourself is phenomenal but when you approach a healing session, a workshop or certification coming from the “There is something wrong with me” mindset, you are going to decrease the amount of healing you can experience. You simply won’t be able to get to the core of it and heal whatever you are trying to heal permanently.
I certainly learned a lot and healed a lot of issues, but when I cleared the source of the belief “There is something wrong with me.” I was able to get to the core and experience the most profound transformation that leads me to:
– Embrace life and my humanity. Take me less seriously.
– See my own pure essence and the essence of others
– Take off the mentor/coach/healer/ problem-solving hat and truly listen and connect with others instead of constantly looking for what I could fix, heal or resolve.
– Have a higher discernment when it comes to choosing what workshop, seminar, retreat or webinar to attend instead of feeling like I “needed” to do every single workshop out there.
– Embodying a state of wholeness
Over the years I have seen this same dilemma with more than 90% of all the people I have worked with. People who’re main intent when buying a product, session, the webinar is to fix themselves because they identify with the thought “There is something wrong with me and I have to fix myself because I am broken.” There are many spiritual “gurus” out there who don’t want you to know this so that you sign up for everything they have to sell you.
It’s Time To Be The Light
Imagine the following, there are a stained glass and a light that comes through it. Most people think they are the stained glass and so they spend their entire life trying to clean and fix the stained glass so the light can shine brighter through it. But what if you realized that you are not the stained glass but the light itself.
As long as you think you are the stained glass you won’t be able to fully experience the light that you are. When you have the thought “There is something wrong with me.” you are seeing yourself as a stained glass that needs to be fixed and cleaned endlessly.
However, if you are the light then you are brilliant, pure, flowing and that which vanishes darkness. When you are the light you have a clear vision of yourself and everything else. And so the stained glass becomes perfection, one experience or version of the infinite possibilities contained within the totality of who you really are.
It is then that you can simply choose to change or clean the stained glass in order to experience a new frequency of colors and patterns that are more aligned with your desires for this unique reality.