”The beauty is that through disappointment you can gain clarity, and with clarity comes conviction and true originality. Conan O’Brien”
For each of us, we have at least one moment of clarity in our lives. This moment defines us and determines who we will become from that point on. To me, this was the point in my life where I found myself on the edge. I was financial, spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically bankrupt, and I didn’t know where to turn. I had tried everything I could think of, but I could not control my drinking. Even more, everything in my life was out of control. I was completely unmanageable. Something had to change and for the first time in my life, I knew that what needed to change, was me.
”Sometimes a moment of clarity shines so brightly, your only choice is to either walk into the light – or hide under the rug”
Moments of Clarity
I have always believed in turning points, just not as a unique defining moment when our whole perspective on life suddenly changes. Now that may surprise you considering the story I shared at the beginning of this article but bear with me.
Crossroads in life are easier than you might think to predict because – with the exception of life-altering events that are out of our control such as a catastrophic injury, unexpected health crisis, or the death of a loved one – turning points rarely happen in a vacuum.
The truth is, even if our health, circumstances or relationships aren’t quite what they should be, more often than not we let things slide. As the old saying goes, first we tolerate and then we accommodate.
But when an inevitable turning point is on the way there will almost always be brief moments of clarity that signal something in your life could use your attention.
The realization that you’re dreading a defining birthday (21, 30 or the big 50), a warning from your doctor about your weight or that high blood pressure, struggling to get out of bed every morning to head to a job that pays the bills but falls far short of feeding your soul, a relationship that has you thinking you really do deserve to be treated better.
You see these nagging feelings of discomfort are like pieces of a puzzle that float around in your subconscious and periodically come together to give you a tap upside the head that is your inner self is trying to get your attention “You-hoo, trying to tell you something here!”
Oh, these feelings may make you pause to consider your life, and you may even promise yourself to take action to make things better. But it’s far too easy to slip back into old conditioned patterns of living, which may not be ideal but there’s a certain comfort because at least you know what to expect.
Real change is after all hard work and to be brutally honest, sometimes we just don’t have the inner strength or commitment to go there. So we put off taking action in the hope that things will eventually get better.
Life in Transition
The thing is life has a habit of repeating these signals in the form of escalating wake-up calls until finally, we have no choice but to acknowledge the reality of our situation.
This is most often the crossroad where we suddenly recognize a “turning point” ahead when in fact it’s a transition that’s been in progress for weeks or months if not years.
Change can be good or it can be bad depending upon how we respond, but it is a natural part of life, and it’s often in transition that we experience some of our most profound personal growth. But change doesn’t have to blindside you.
By paying attention to what is going on with your health, career, finances, and relationships, you can learn to recognize moments of clarity for what they are, signals that your life is off course.
”Eventually, all of the pieces will fall into place and your life will make sense. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moment and know that no matter what has happened up to now, you will be okay. ~Marquita Herald”
The next time you experience a moment of clarity about a situation in your life, write it down and take some time to explore what’s behind the message.
Keep in mind that sometimes the catalyst for your turning point is only the tip of the proverbial iceberg. In my own case, the long overdue end of a relationship was only the beginning of my transition.
I realized I’d clung to a job so I ended up a career change that involved leaving the corporate world for a far more satisfying career as a life and small business coach, which led to developing training courses and writing blogs, and well, being here with you now!
It is my belief that we each hold the power within us to become the architects of our lives. Personally, I feel like my turning point is continuing and I’m loving every minute of it!