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”Everyone Struggles with Something”

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”Settling down is the scariest part about growing up. But trust me: it beats life on the go”

All of us are fighting our own inner battle. For some of us, it’s like World War III in there. And we don’t always know the details of people’s inner struggles. The only people who truly understand them are those who are fighting the battles themselves.

We’re so oblivious because our mind is like a speeding train. It frenetically generates thoughts. It turns everything over and over, it makes hypotheses about what is happening around us.

The mind makes suppositions, it creates new ideas and concepts, considers and reconsiders, anticipates the worst and passes judgment on others… And, of course, on ourselves.

This incessant machine tortures us. And it leaves behind “mental garbage.” Scientists claim that we have more than 60,000 thoughts per day. They estimate that for most people, most of those thoughts (about 80%) are negative, toxic, and dysfunctional. 

We are on autopilot most of the time. Because of that, we are highly influenced by our beliefs. These are convictions that we form during childhood and become ingrained in us through experience.

Some of these beliefs are in our subconscious. Our most immediate thoughts and judgments are born out of those beliefs. 

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The mind and its tricks:- If some of your beliefs are incorrect or unhealthy, your thoughts and judgment will be too. We are constantly judging. We judge ourselves and others. And what usually results from all that judging is suffering.

Our mind passes judgment to protect us, for our own survival. Actually, judgments serve their purpose. 

We tend to think that the other person shares our point of view, and that’s part of the reason we suffer so much. We all see the world through different lenses. What means one thing to me, means something else to you. We dare to judge other people because we believe that everyone should see things as we see them.

Acceptance and love cure-all, even inner struggles:- When you accept you who really are (including your flaws), you view others’ flaws more kindly. If we think someone is attacking us, it could be because they are dealing with internal struggles. They attack without awareness.

 

The root causes are the emotional wounds and survival tactics they learned as a child. They were wounded than when they were only searching for love and acceptance. Very often that’s what leads people to act this way.

That’s why if you believe that someone is attacking you, remember that they probably aren’t doing it intentionally. It’s a flaw that they are projecting, or you are imagining.

We even judge ourselves. We forget that we can’t judge the pastinspirational quotes on struggles in life Lovely sad quotes struggle life the struggles will make you stronger they from our current vantage point. We now know the consequences, but at the time they weren’t certain, just possible, like many other options.

In either case, other people aren’t making you suffer. In the first case, your own expectations of people make you suffer. We expect everyone to be exactly as we want them to be. It makes us incapable of accepting them as they really are. This is what the struggle is.

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