''Relationship, Needs, And Desires''

First Lets Explore what is the difference between Relationship, Needs, And Desires.

* What is a Good Relationship?

A Good Relationship has-

# Trust,

# Encourage growth and change,

# Forgive quickly and truly,

# Accepting Things,

# Show Your Feelings,

# Never Expecting Anything Back.

So Why Trust?You have to trust your Partner. Why would you share your life with someone when you think they’re doing something wrong every time you turn your back? If you don’t trust your partner to be faithful, honest, caring or anything else, then you’re not in a good relationship. The Best Relationships begin with a deep trust, and even if problems come up(and they will)!! , the trust is strong enough to keep you together.

A Good Relationship Encourage growth and change-In a good relationship, both partners are encouraged to grow and change. You have one life to live- You should explore it to the fullest!! If you want to quit your job and go back to school, your partner should support you. If you want to try something new or go back to something old, you should find support in your relationship. And you should give these support in return. Encourage your partner to explore hobbies and interests and meet new people. If you want your partner to stay the same, you’re going to have a very boring life together.

Boring Life Together… I Know Nobody Wants That!!!!

Learn to Forgive quickly and truly-Whenever you have a fight, don’t worry about who is going to win or lose. Learn from the fight- from what was said as much as from how it was resolved. Once you learn from a fight, you can apply that lesson to your relationship to avoid trouble later. That’s all well and good, but you’re not done!! Forgive Your Partner!!Forgive Yourself. The Fight is over, you’re past it, now let it go. Never hold anything against your partner, because the resentment will build until you don’t want to be with them.

Sometimes You Can Only Accept Things, Not Fix Them-People have baggage. You have some. Your partner has some. Can you go back and erase all of this? Nope!! You’re stuck with it and have to learn to deal with it. Some things are easier to get over than others, but the reality is that sometimes, you can’t fix things. You can make problems go away. You have to accept it and get over it and move on, or else your relationship will crumble.

Show Your Feelings To Your Partner-The worst thing you can do in a relationship is play games. Don’t tease your partner; don’t “reward” good deeds with love and affection. You have to make sure your partner always feels loved. You can be happy with them or be mad at them- it doesn’t matter- they just need to feel loved. They need to know your feelings in the moment as well, don’t get me wrong. But make sure you’re showing your feelings in a way so they won’t be misunderstood.

The Best Thing In Relationship Is Never Expecting Anything Back In Return-Don’t expect your partner to read your mind, or to bring you breakfast in bed, or to offer to wash the dishes. It’s not going to happen. You can’t expect anything from anyone- You have to make your desires known. Communicate. Make sure your partner knows what you expect from the relationship, as well as your options for a wide variety of issues. This will help them act considerate towards you, But still- don’t expect anything back in return!!!!

So Then What Turn To Be A Bad Relation Than!!!!!

# Being Satisfied With Unsatisfactory Relationship,

# Negativity about love,

# Relation As Investment,

# Manipulation.

Being Satisfied With Unsatisfactory Relationship-In a recent research exploring women’s decisions about whether to stay in or to leave their relationships, the single most important determinant of women’s decisions to remain in their relationships was relationship satisfaction. How can we be satisfied with unsatisfactory relationships? Some individual, especially those with low self-esteem or those who perceive themselves to be less attractive, have low ”comparison levels”. Comparison level can be thought of as your ”standards,” or what you expect to receive from a relationship. Individuals with low comparison level, you may maintain a bad relationship because your low expectations are being met. Individuals with low self-esteem are more likely to become involved in a relationship which is of shorter duration, and they experience further declines in self Esteem when their relationship end.

Negativity about love-Psychologists distinguish among three different components of attitude; the cognitive components or thoughts, the effective component or feelings, and the behavioral component or actions. Frequently these components are not aligned with one another. For example, in the case of a bad relationship, your thoughts may be negative, telling you that your partner is not good for you, but your feelings may still be positive. We may continue to love our partners, even though we consciously recognize that we are involved in bad relationships. It is also possible that strong positive and negative feelings toward a partner my co-exist.

Relation As Investment-Other major obstacles to leaving a bad relationship includes our shared investments with our partners. Investing a lot of time in a relationship or sharing investment, such as a home or children, makes couples more likely to stay together.When we have already invested a lot of time, effort or resources in a relationship, many of us continue that investment even when it may not be best for us; we are biased toward continuing unhappy relationships once we have invested in them. When making relationship decisions, we often rely on emotions rather than rational deliberation which leads to staying in the bad relationship.

Manipulation In Relationships:-If your partner is aware that you want to leave the relationship, he or she may use different methods of manipulation to force you to stay. Emotional manipulation, such as belittling, demanding, or even threats of violence against future alternative partners, may be used to maintain the current relationship. Men with lower self- esteem, as well as men who are less physically attractive than their partners, may be more likely to use manipulation to prevent their partners from leaving their relationships. The distress associated with emotional abuse or the physical implications of intimate partner violence are strong deterrents to those seeking to leave a relationship.

So, What is the difference between our need and desires in ”Relationships”?

Our need reflects our humanity and is common to all of us.

Some needs we literally cannot live without, like air, water, and food. Some are most important for our emotional well-beings like acceptance and love, some our spirituals well-beings like the need for space and inspiration. Whatever the need without it our quality of life would be significantly worse off. The value we place on different needs make us unique but the underlying need for them is universal.

Our Desires Reflects Our Individual Uniqueness.

They are what we choose in our lives that say’ this is who we are. ‘ Our Desires are things we can survive without yet they are important aspects of how we experience, express and create our reality. The list of potential desires is as endless and varied as is the human race. Our Desires come in two different forms, desires that serve simply ourselves and desires that serve ourselves whilst benefitting others and the world around us.

Our Needs And Desires Are The Place In Relationship Where We Find Both Challange And Opportunity.

It’s not our partner’s obligation to fulfill our needs and desires, or ours to fulfill our partner’s. We commit to being together and supporting each other in whatever way we can, this is what builds love. Sharin each other’s desires brings creativity, aliveness, and growth.

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”Relationship, Needs, And Desires”

First Lets Explore what is the difference between Relationship, Needs, And Desires.

* What is a Good Relationship?

A Good Relationship has-

# Trust,

# Encourage growth and change,

# Forgive quickly and truly,

# Accepting Things,

# Show Your Feelings,

# Never Expecting Anything Back.

So Why Trust?You have to trust your Partner. Why would you share your life with someone when you think they’re doing something wrong every time you turn your back? If you don’t trust your partner to be faithful, honest, caring or anything else, then you’re not in a good relationship. The Best Relationships begin with a deep trust, and even if problems come up(and they will)!! , the trust is strong enough to keep you together.

A Good Relationship Encourage growth and change-In a good relationship, both partners are encouraged to grow and change. You have one life to live- You should explore it to the fullest!! If you want to quit your job and go back to school, your partner should support you. If you want to try something new or go back to something old, you should find support in your relationship. And you should give these support in return. Encourage your partner to explore hobbies and interests and meet new people. If you want your partner to stay the same, you’re going to have a very boring life together.

Boring Life Together… I Know Nobody Wants That!!!!

Learn to Forgive quickly and truly-Whenever you have a fight, don’t worry about who is going to win or lose. Learn from the fight- from what was said as much as from how it was resolved. Once you learn from a fight, you can apply that lesson to your relationship to avoid trouble later. That’s all well and good, but you’re not done!! Forgive Your Partner!!Forgive Yourself. The Fight is over, you’re past it, now let it go. Never hold anything against your partner, because the resentment will build until you don’t want to be with them.

Sometimes You Can Only Accept Things, Not Fix Them-People have baggage. You have some. Your partner has some. Can you go back and erase all of this? Nope!! You’re stuck with it and have to learn to deal with it. Some things are easier to get over than others, but the reality is that sometimes, you can’t fix things. You can make problems go away. You have to accept it and get over it and move on, or else your relationship will crumble.

Show Your Feelings To Your Partner-The worst thing you can do in a relationship is play games. Don’t tease your partner; don’t “reward” good deeds with love and affection. You have to make sure your partner always feels loved. You can be happy with them or be mad at them- it doesn’t matter- they just need to feel loved. They need to know your feelings in the moment as well, don’t get me wrong. But make sure you’re showing your feelings in a way so they won’t be misunderstood.

The Best Thing In Relationship Is Never Expecting Anything Back In Return-Don’t expect your partner to read your mind, or to bring you breakfast in bed, or to offer to wash the dishes. It’s not going to happen. You can’t expect anything from anyone- You have to make your desires known. Communicate. Make sure your partner knows what you expect from the relationship, as well as your options for a wide variety of issues. This will help them act considerate towards you, But still- don’t expect anything back in return!!!!

So Then What Turn To Be A Bad Relation Than!!!!!

# Being Satisfied With Unsatisfactory Relationship,

# Negativity about love,

# Relation As Investment,

# Manipulation.

Being Satisfied With Unsatisfactory Relationship-In a recent research exploring women’s decisions about whether to stay in or to leave their relationships, the single most important determinant of women’s decisions to remain in their relationships was relationship satisfaction. How can we be satisfied with unsatisfactory relationships? Some individual, especially those with low self-esteem or those who perceive themselves to be less attractive, have low ”comparison levels”. Comparison level can be thought of as your ”standards,” or what you expect to receive from a relationship. Individuals with low comparison level, you may maintain a bad relationship because your low expectations are being met. Individuals with low self-esteem are more likely to become involved in a relationship which is of shorter duration, and they experience further declines in self Esteem when their relationship end.

Negativity about love-Psychologists distinguish among three different components of attitude; the cognitive components or thoughts, the effective component or feelings, and the behavioral component or actions. Frequently these components are not aligned with one another. For example, in the case of a bad relationship, your thoughts may be negative, telling you that your partner is not good for you, but your feelings may still be positive. We may continue to love our partners, even though we consciously recognize that we are involved in bad relationships. It is also possible that strong positive and negative feelings toward a partner my co-exist.

Relation As Investment-Other major obstacles to leaving a bad relationship includes our shared investments with our partners. Investing a lot of time in a relationship or sharing investment, such as a home or children, makes couples more likely to stay together.When we have already invested a lot of time, effort or resources in a relationship, many of us continue that investment even when it may not be best for us; we are biased toward continuing unhappy relationships once we have invested in them. When making relationship decisions, we often rely on emotions rather than rational deliberation which leads to staying in the bad relationship.

Manipulation In Relationships:-If your partner is aware that you want to leave the relationship, he or she may use different methods of manipulation to force you to stay. Emotional manipulation, such as belittling, demanding, or even threats of violence against future alternative partners, may be used to maintain the current relationship. Men with lower self- esteem, as well as men who are less physically attractive than their partners, may be more likely to use manipulation to prevent their partners from leaving their relationships. The distress associated with emotional abuse or the physical implications of intimate partner violence are strong deterrents to those seeking to leave a relationship.

So, What is the difference between our need and desires in ”Relationships”?

Our need reflects our humanity and is common to all of us.

Some needs we literally cannot live without, like air, water, and food. Some are most important for our emotional well-beings like acceptance and love, some our spirituals well-beings like the need for space and inspiration. Whatever the need without it our quality of life would be significantly worse off. The value we place on different needs make us unique but the underlying need for them is universal.

Our Desires Reflects Our Individual Uniqueness.

They are what we choose in our lives that say’ this is who we are. ‘ Our Desires are things we can survive without yet they are important aspects of how we experience, express and create our reality. The list of potential desires is as endless and varied as is the human race. Our Desires come in two different forms, desires that serve simply ourselves and desires that serve ourselves whilst benefitting others and the world around us.

Our Needs And Desires Are The Place In Relationship Where We Find Both Challange And Opportunity.

It’s not our partner’s obligation to fulfill our needs and desires, or ours to fulfill our partner’s. We commit to being together and supporting each other in whatever way we can, this is what builds love. Sharin each other’s desires brings creativity, aliveness, and growth.

"Reason For Relationships Breakups"

Breakups are the pits. All of us here on the team. Verily have been through it- we know it isn’t fun. You know what also isn’t fun? That two-month mark” oh crap” feeling when you start to think: Did I make a horrible mistake?

The kick-off is different for everyone. Sometimes it comes in the form of a phone call from our ex desperately pleading to get back together, sometimes it’s coming across that Facebook photo where he’s smiling with another girl at a party and you think.” Oh my gosh, has he moved on?!!

No matter how it comes about, just telling yourself ” not to think about it” often isn’t enough to solve your nagging doubts(although it can definitely help!). Rather than running around in circles in your mind, ask yourself these questions to think productively about giving the relationship a second shot.

01. Are you in love with the person or the idea of them…

It’s best to address this question first, as it is the most pressing feeling at the moment- Longing for his presence. Sometimes that’s a genuine desire for a particular person: sometimes it’s just plain old loneliness. And that’s Ok! Human Beings really aren’t meant to be completely alone- even monks live in community!- so don’t take it as a sign that you were meant to be together. But do recognize that your feelings may not be coming from a place of clarity. So often we can get wrapped up in the sudden loneliness of not having someone to text with before bed, or not be having a date for that upcoming wedding, or even seeing friends’ photos with their S.O., that we lose perspective.

If you Don’t think it’s just Loneliness, really consider who this person is. Too often the memory of a person we miss gets blown out of proportions in our minds, gussied up with rose-colored glasses. Are the things you love about this man reality or just longing for who you desire him to be? What character traits do you love about him? What specifically do you miss?

2. What the reason that leads to Break up in First Place?

Despite all those reasons for missing him now, there was something that ended the relationship in the first place. What was it? If you broke up over substantial differences, like your religious beliefs or your attitudes towards money, is there something to make you think those issues have been resolved? And no”we’ll figure it out” is not an answer.

Remember that all the Longing and loneliness you feel now can make something as painful as cheating on you that one time seems like nothing in retrospect. Go further than identifying why it is you chose t break things off: Remind Yourself of how those difficulties made you feel.

Which brings us to the next question…

3. What Would a relationship with that person look like now?

If the reason was something like distance or a move, then think about what rekindling your relationship would look like now. If he’s on one coast and you’re on the other, is that something you’re willing to make work? Even if you’re only a few hours away, if you’re in a new, demanding job, you may not get to see each other every weekend like you used to. Think about these factors when evaluating weather getting back together would truly make you happy.

Next Question coming in my Mind?

4. What have You Learned since Breakup?

Have you changed? Do you want different things than you did when you were with your EX? Feel free to ask for you Dear one ‘ input on this as well. if they’ve seen a change in your demeanor- for the better- since your breakup, that could be a telltale sign you made the right decision.

05. Do you see a future together?

It’s possible that when looking at your relationship in a static way, any problems leadings up to the breakup (or even post- breakup) don’t seem very large. Maybe you worked through some of your previous issues. But did you consider the biggest one; whether or not there’s a foundation for a real future together? The first time around, it can be easy to get swept up in the feeling of falling in love. if you’re going to take the effort to restart a previously sputtered romance, building it on a shared vision makes it more likely that this time around you two will make it.

Once you have answered these questions honestly- without fear of whatever the answer to your ultimate questions might be- make the decision to move forward. Remember, whether you made a mistake or not, your Ex is not the last “Good Person” on this planet You will meet someone else who makes your heart skip the way he did, but this time you will have learned valuable lessons about who you are and what you what from the next relationship.

“Reason For Relationships Breakups”

Breakups are the pits. All of us here on the team. Verily have been through it- we know it isn’t fun. You know what also isn’t fun? That two-month mark” oh crap” feeling when you start to think: Did I make a horrible mistake?

The kick-off is different for everyone. Sometimes it comes in the form of a phone call from our ex desperately pleading to get back together, sometimes it’s coming across that Facebook photo where he’s smiling with another girl at a party and you think.” Oh my gosh, has he moved on?!!

No matter how it comes about, just telling yourself ” not to think about it” often isn’t enough to solve your nagging doubts(although it can definitely help!). Rather than running around in circles in your mind, ask yourself these questions to think productively about giving the relationship a second shot.

01. Are you in love with the person or the idea of them…

It’s best to address this question first, as it is the most pressing feeling at the moment- Longing for his presence. Sometimes that’s a genuine desire for a particular person: sometimes it’s just plain old loneliness. And that’s Ok! Human Beings really aren’t meant to be completely alone- even monks live in community!- so don’t take it as a sign that you were meant to be together. But do recognize that your feelings may not be coming from a place of clarity. So often we can get wrapped up in the sudden loneliness of not having someone to text with before bed, or not be having a date for that upcoming wedding, or even seeing friends’ photos with their S.O., that we lose perspective.

If you Don’t think it’s just Loneliness, really consider who this person is. Too often the memory of a person we miss gets blown out of proportions in our minds, gussied up with rose-colored glasses. Are the things you love about this man reality or just longing for who you desire him to be? What character traits do you love about him? What specifically do you miss?

2. What the reason that leads to Break up in First Place?

Despite all those reasons for missing him now, there was something that ended the relationship in the first place. What was it? If you broke up over substantial differences, like your religious beliefs or your attitudes towards money, is there something to make you think those issues have been resolved? And no”we’ll figure it out” is not an answer.

Remember that all the Longing and loneliness you feel now can make something as painful as cheating on you that one time seems like nothing in retrospect. Go further than identifying why it is you chose t break things off: Remind Yourself of how those difficulties made you feel.

Which brings us to the next question…

3. What Would a relationship with that person look like now?

If the reason was something like distance or a move, then think about what rekindling your relationship would look like now. If he’s on one coast and you’re on the other, is that something you’re willing to make work? Even if you’re only a few hours away, if you’re in a new, demanding job, you may not get to see each other every weekend like you used to. Think about these factors when evaluating weather getting back together would truly make you happy.

Next Question coming in my Mind?

4. What have You Learned since Breakup?

Have you changed? Do you want different things than you did when you were with your EX? Feel free to ask for you Dear one ‘ input on this as well. if they’ve seen a change in your demeanor- for the better- since your breakup, that could be a telltale sign you made the right decision.

05. Do you see a future together?

It’s possible that when looking at your relationship in a static way, any problems leadings up to the breakup (or even post- breakup) don’t seem very large. Maybe you worked through some of your previous issues. But did you consider the biggest one; whether or not there’s a foundation for a real future together? The first time around, it can be easy to get swept up in the feeling of falling in love. if you’re going to take the effort to restart a previously sputtered romance, building it on a shared vision makes it more likely that this time around you two will make it.

Once you have answered these questions honestly- without fear of whatever the answer to your ultimate questions might be- make the decision to move forward. Remember, whether you made a mistake or not, your Ex is not the last “Good Person” on this planet You will meet someone else who makes your heart skip the way he did, but this time you will have learned valuable lessons about who you are and what you what from the next relationship.

Things to Improve your Life Much Better.

The miraculous process of converting that dream into reality began when one voice challenged the scientific community to do whatever was necessary to see to it that America” places a man on the moon by the end of this decade.” That challenge awakened the spirit of a nation by planting the seed of possible future achievement into the fertile soil of imagination.

Remember:- “What You Think, You Become”

With that one bold challenge, the impossible became a reality.

The same principle applies to every other area of our life.

Can a poor person become wealthy?Of course! The unique combination of desire, planning, efforts, and perseverance will always work its magic. The question is not whether the formula for success will work, but rather whether the person will work the Formula. That is the unknown variable. That is the challenge that confronts us all.

We can all go wherever we want to be. No dream is impossible provided we first have the courage to believe in it.

Here are some tips to improve your life.

1. Face your Fears.

2. Exercise your willpower to change direction.

3.Admit Your mistake.

4.Refine Your Goals.

5.Believe in Yourself.

6.Ask For Wisdom.

7.Conserve Your Time.

8.Invest Your Profit.

9.Live with intensity.

10.Find your Place.

11. Demand integrity from Yourself.

12. Welcome the Disciplines in life.

13. Fight for what’s right.