”Why Do I Feel I Don’t Know Myself Anymore..?”


”I don’t fear death so much as I fear its prologues: loneliness, decrepitude, pain, debilitation, depression, senility. After a few years of those, I imagine death presents as a holiday at the beach.”

Hello Folks, I am reaching out to anyone there who suffers from anxiety, unwanted thoughts and depression like me.

I feel like I am living in a dark hole and that nothing good ever comes into my life anymore.

My unwanted thoughts are robbing me from having a good and well-maintained life, I am stressing myself out for no reason and I don’t know what to do, I am so scared and when I look into what long-term anxiety can do to the body I burst into tears.

I had a fear of death for quite some time last year and as of the last December, I had a very bad incident of little hours of sleep in a week.


”A big part of depression is feeling really lonely, even if you’re in a room full of a million peoples.”

It was so bad that I was drinking to pass out but of course, that makes me SO MUCH WORSE! I have been okay with being able to sleep but it’s only because I have taken something to make me sleepy and then the next day I am drowsy and spacey. I am always thinking about fearing of not been able to sleep, it’s so bad that I don’t work anymore, I don’t plan any events with anyone or even see anyone because I panic about not been rested… I wanted to make music with the humblest person I know but because of this fear, I no longer get involved in music anymore.

I just can’t seem to get my mind of this and it’s destroying everyday, I just do the same thing everyday feeling sorry for myself and crying so much it makes my head hurt.



Another important twist is that people can feel sad, even intensely sad, without depression being involved. When people experience a loss, they usually feel sad, but don’t necessarily feel depressed. Sadness and depression have similarities, but they have some important differences.

When people are sad and express their sadness, they feel better, whereas when people are depressed, expressing their pain may not give them relief.

When people are sad and express their sadness, they feel better, whereas when people are depressed, crying and expressing their pain may not give them relief. Sadness doesn’t involve mean thoughts about oneself or hopeless or suicidal thoughts, but depression often does. Sadness doesn’t involve distortion in perception, or loss of perspective, whereas depression usually does. Finally, sadness doesn’t interfere with feeling other emotions, while depression often prevents a range of specific emotions.

In my experience, most people who are depressed have some sense that something is wrong, and if they don’t, people around them usually do. It really doesn’t matter whether suffering fits neatly into the DSM diagnosis for depression or not.

It’s not necessary to diagnose yourself or your loved ones. If you or someone you love is suffering, get professional help to assess what is causing the suffering and what would help relieve it.



”Softening The Heart & Let Go Of Anger”


”For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Anger is complex, isn’t it?  You want a peaceful world, but you don’t always feel peaceful inside. Sometimes your anger burns so strongly that you explode, and then find you’ve made matters worse.  Other times, you try to restrain your fury. But what happens when you bury displeasure inside of yourself, especially if you do so consistently? It shows that anger, when overly expressed or suppressed on a regular basis, can damage your physical or emotional health.


What I Know About Anger:-

I’m not an angry person.  But right now, I’m dealing with exasperating circumstances in my life that make me boil at times.  I confess I haven’t been a perfect angel.  I’ve vented a time or two.  But I also see these provocations as a chance to learn how to walk through the fire without getting burned.

Given these provocative times, I want to update what I understand about anger and how to work with it without making things worse.



How is anger for you?

I come from a spiritual tradition that strongly opposes anger.  It’s said, if you indulge in anger for any amount of time, without making reparations, you’ll go to the Buddhist version of hell.  And, a moment of fury can wipe out eons — yes, eons folks — of good karma.

The philosophers of the world offer a similar message about anger.  For example,

Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. – Mark Twain

Enough to make you shake in your boots, right? What’s a normal human being to do?

Let’s look at ways you can soften anger, without turning it against yourself or dumping it on someone else.


A Complex Relationship with Anger:-

I have a complex relationship with anger.

It can be hard for me to get in touch with wrathful feelings towards those who have harmed me in unmentionable ways. I explain away the emotion using an intellectual understanding of compassion and don’t feel anybody sensations at all. So it sits in my physical form like a time bomb.

I can go for long periods of time without feeling much anger.  But when I’m triggered, an intense fume rises up, seemingly out of nowhere. Although I get over small things quickly, big ones can last for days.  My mind argues my case in an unceasing monologue.  Until it’s done, and then it’s done.

I fracture easily, so other peoples’ aggression feels enormous to me. As a result, I feel averse to conflict.  But, ironically, when I feel on fire, I can be the very person that stirs the pot.


Here a few helpful things to try:


Deal with your past:-
Many people are hesitant to deal with past wounds, especially those that happened in childhood because they fear to dwell on the past or developing a victim mentality. But dealing with the past is not dwelling in the past. In fact, it’s only by addressing the difficult things you’ve experienced that you can truly move past them. Find a trustworthy mentor or seek a counselor who can help you work through and heal from the things that are fueling ongoing anger.

Open up:-
Developing a sense of connection with trusted individuals is crucial to maintaining mental health. Invest in a community of people who you can be open and honest with. Simply expressing the fears and frustrations you’re experiencing to persons you trust will help you gain perspective, gain insights, and learn new ways to gain control over your emotions.

Quit festering:-
Do you find yourself reliving events and wishing you would have said or done something different? Do you find yourself getting angry all over again about something that doesn’t really matter? These kinds of thought patterns create a breeding ground for anger problems to develop. Not only do these negative thought patterns lead to angry outbursts, they also can cause debilitating anxiety and depression over time.

Take a deep breath:-
Though it may take practice, you can learn to process a situation fully before responding to someone in anger. As you give yourself time to cool off, you may find the circumstance does not warrant the anger-infused response you initially imagined giving. By giving ourselves time to process, we may see that our present circumstances are not nearly as threatening (or require the level of anger) as they seemed in the moment.

Get your beauty rest:-
A very effective way to become irritable is to skip out on sleep. Even just cutting corners—an hour here and an hour there—can tremendously affect the chemical balance that allows us to keep a healthy perspective, temper our emotional responses, and maintain self-control. It’s worth coming home early from a night out or waiting until the weekend to catch up on your favorite show. Make sleep a priority and you’ll quickly gain more control over your emotions—anger and others.

Eat all the greens:-
For some, a simple change in diet can alleviate a remarkable amount of stress due to chemical imbalances in the body. If you’ve been regularly snacking on highly processed foods or grabbing fast food dinners on the run, this could be a contributor to your bad moods. Consider speaking with a licensed nutritionist about the symptoms you’re experiencing, and work to develop a healthy food plan that will help you maintain a better biochemical balance.

Take it out on the weights:-
Exercise is a very effective way to release pent-up anger and aggression. Not only does it help you maintain a healthy chemical balance (hello endorphins!) it also boosts self-confidence and alleviates stress. If weightlifting isn’t your thing, try a yoga class or walk around your neighborhood (try for 10,000 steps a day, which is 5 miles and puts you firmly into the “active” category). No matter what type of exercise you choose, if you commit to sweating it out for at least 30 minutes daily, you may quickly find you have a more positive outlook on life.

Hit the Library:-
One of the most effective ways to gain control of your life is simply learning how to manage anger. This article is a good start for sure, but continue to educate yourself on the signs and symptoms of toxic anger and study the stories of others who have learned to overcome it. When it comes to mental health, understanding the thought-patterns and emotions involved is half the battle. If you can’t make it to a library, there are countless resources available online. Pour yourself some coffee and dig in.


Practice Mindfulness:-
Gaining control of your thoughts is never easy at first. It takes time and effort, and practicing mindfulness is a great way to do it. Meditate, do yoga, go for a walk and take in the beauty around you, or simply find a quiet place to reflect on the “automatic thoughts” about yourself and others you’ve been having that you haven’t even noticed. After that, try to get out of your own head for a while—let your thoughts wash over you without making any judgments about them. By learning to be present at the moment, you’ll gain more control over your thoughts and emotions.

The good news is if you’re struggling with anger—, you are not alone. Millions are working right alongside you to get their anger under control. They can succeed, and you can too.

If you’re experiencing reoccurring anger problems and you’re not quite sure what’s driving them, talk to someone today who can help you begin to make sense of it all, and who can help you regain control of your thoughts, emotions, and life.

”Getting Rid of Anxiety Dizziness”



”All the dreamers in all the world are dizzy in the noodle.”

Edie Adams

Dizziness is a very common physical symptom of anxiety. If you’ve lived with anxiety for any length of time then I’m sure you’ve had at least a few episodes of severe dizziness.

When you experience dizziness it can be annoying at best and terrifying at worst, and it can be hard not to think there’s a serious medical problem that’s causing the dizziness.

During the lowest points in my time with anxiety, it was dizziness that forced me to go to my doctor more times than anything else. My doctor reassured me that it was all caused by anxiety, but I used to find that very hard to believe.

What helped me to overcome my dizziness was to learn more about it. I’d like to share what I learned in this post so that you can overcome your own dizziness.

The best place to start is why anxiety causes dizziness in the first place.




Why Does Anxiety Cause Dizziness?

There are 4 main ways that anxiety causes dizziness:

  • your anxiety may turn into a panic attack, which will cause an adrenaline rush. This will speed up your breathing and your heart rate and increase your blood pressure and your temperature. So many significant physical changes can overwhelm your body and leave you feeling dizzy.
  • your anxiety, if severe, may cause confusion and disorientation. Confusion and disorientation, in combination with your anxiety, can lead to overwhelming dizziness.
  • your anxiety may cause visual disturbances. This can lead to a “seasickness” type of dizziness where the world seems to move independently around you.
  • your anxiety may cause you to breathe too quickly or too shallowly, causing an imbalance in the oxygen levels in your blood. This imbalance can affect the levels of oxygen in your brain and cause severe dizziness.

With so many potential ways for your anxiety to cause dizziness, it shouldn’t be too surprising that this symptom affects you from time to time.

So even though extreme dizziness can be unpleasant and scary, the next time it happens to you, find reassurance in the knowledge that its root-cause is your anxiety and that almost everyone else with anxiety is experiencing the exact same dizziness.

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What Does Dizziness Caused by Anxiety Feel Like?

A big part of dealing with any physical symptom of anxiety is becoming familiar with how it feels. This will help you recognize the symptom when it happens and find reassurance that it’s your anxiety causing the symptom and not something more worrying.

If your anxiety causes dizziness, here’s a list of what you might experience:

  • you feel as if your head is spinning
  • you feel faint
  • you feel like you might pass out
  • you feel like you’re going to lose your balance
  • you feel confused
  • you feel disoriented
  • you feel like the world is spinning around you
  • you feel like everything around you is moving too fast
  • you feel sick or disoriented if you look at moving objects
  • your dizziness gets worse when you move your head up or down

You can see that dizziness can affect you in many ways, and they’re all unpleasant. These are significant physical changes and it’s often difficult to believe that they’re being caused by nothing more than anxiety.

But this kind of horrible dizziness really can be caused by anxiety, and knowing that should offer you some reassurance.


How to Stop Dizziness Caused by Anxiety

As I mentioned earlier, anxiety can cause dizziness in 4 different ways:

  • as a result of adrenaline released during a panic attack
  • as a result of disorientation and confusion during severe anxiety
  • as a result of visual disturbances
  • as a result of incorrect breathing

The first 3 causes are out of your control. Once anxiety gets bad enough to cause panic attacks, disorientation, or visual disturbances, the dizziness will almost always follow, and by that time it’s too late to stop. So you just have to wait for it to pass.

That’s the bad news.

But the good news is that dizziness caused by anxiety is almost always a result of the 4th cause: the incorrect breathing. That’s something you have the power to change.

There are 2 problems with the way you breathe when you’re anxious:

  • you breathe too quickly
  • you breathe too shallowly

Breathing too quickly is a very common problem with anxiety, and at its extreme becomes full-blown hyperventilation.

Breathing too shallowly is also a common problem with anxiety, but it’s one that most people aren’t aware of. Breathing too shallowly means you don’t take deep, full breaths. Instead, you take short, quick breaths.

The result of both of these breathing problems is that your levels of oxygen and carbon dioxide become imbalanced, and either too much or too little oxygen ends up in your system.

And that means you’ll probably feel dizzy.


There are 2 simple techniques you can use to overcome these breathing problems that lead to dizziness:

  • every couple of hours, take slow and controlled breaths for a couple of minutes. Breathe in through your nose for a count of 4, breathe out through your mouth for a count of 8. This controlled breathing will normalize your oxygen levels if they’re low
  • anytime you feel anxious, breathe slowly into a paper bag for 30 seconds. This will prevent your moment of anxiety from leading to shallow breathing, and your oxygen levels will remain in the normal range, hopefully preventing dizziness from happening

Remember to make use of both of these breathing techniques throughout your day, and your chances of experiencing dizziness will be reduced significantly.

The Takeaway :-Like most symptoms of anxiety, dizziness is horrible and it can also be scary.

But now that you’ve learned more about it, you should hopefully feel reassured that your dizziness is purely a result of your anxiety and nothing else.

You should also feel more confident now that you now have the power to control your dizziness by using the 2 simple breathing techniques I’ve shared with you.

These 2 techniques work surprisingly well at preventing dizziness, and if you can remember to use them consistently then your dizziness should become a much smaller problem in your day-to-day life.

”Anxiety- How to feel better”


”Do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Let the day’s own trouble be sufficient for the day.”

This last one is the most difficult but the most important. Often anxiety is so painful that we become fascinated, obsessed even, with understanding and solving our worries. We want to get rid of the pain of anxiety as soon as possible.

Sometimes this is useful, as we come up with strategies to manage our emotions, but a lot of the time it validates the power of our anxiety and adds fuel to the fire. The mind will only focus on what it values; if you can manage to become bored with your anxiety, it will loosen its grip on your life.

Why am I anxious?”

“Is there something I’ve forgotten?”

“Is there something coming up that I’m nervous about?”

“Am I sick?”

And then the most dangerous question of all:


“Have I really been anxious this whole time and the calm isn’t real?”

This question is very tricky. If I was a character in a movie, I’d been standing up out of my seat and yelling at myself on the screen, “Ignore it! Ignore it! You’re fine, go back to sleep!”

But it’s tricky because it feels like there a grain of truth to it; on some level, we can all relate to that sense of doubt. Our minds tend to come up with explanations based on our feelings, so this sensation of anxiety was (unsurprisingly) causing my mind to come up with a story based on these feelings.

The whole ordeal lasted less than five minutes. Fortunately, in this moment of tension, I was mindful enough to see how far-fetched these thoughts were. I settled on a far more pragmatic explanation; I’d become so unused to feelings of anxiety, that when they did arise, they were a shock to the system, so my mind immediately tried to rationalize them.

And then I went back to sleep.

Moments like this one would come again, and what I needed to do was simple. Any five-minute mindfulness book would have had the answer.


All I needed to do to keep the calm was to not care that these thoughts and feelings were there. I just needed to be completely disinterested, to not touch anything in my mind. Following the instructions in a moment of distress, however, is much easier said than done.

So I remembered what I’d heard a yoga teacher say once in an uncomfortable pose where the students had their hands above their heads for a long time.

“Just tell your mind that things are going to be like this for the rest of your life. It’ll get bored of the pain and move on.”

I took that idea and started applying it whenever worries came up. I managed to convince myself that I didn’t need to fix anything and that feelings of anxiety were just really not that interesting. It worked out pretty well, so well in fact, that I thought I’d go into a little bit more detail of how I managed to do so and share it with you.


 It’s OK To Let Yourself Feel Anxious:-

Feeling anxious is never pleasant, but if you refuse to accept your anxiety, you’ll only make it worse. Trying to deny that your anxiety exists, or trying to get rid of it the second it flares up, will only make your anxiety seem more daunting.

“Acceptance is critical because trying to wrangle or eliminate anxiety often worsens it.”

If your initial reaction to anxiety is to deny it, you’re basically telling yourself that your anxiety is intolerable, and this idea will only make it harder for you to deal with your anxious feelings.

Your Anxious Feelings Will Pass:-

This one can be really challenging to remember when you’re feeling super anxious, but it’s true. Feelings are fleeting, and they can’t physically hurt you, so sometimes the best thing you can do is just wait them out. It may take longer than you like for your anxious feelings to go away, but they’ve gone away before, and they’ll go away again.


You’ve Handled Your Anxiety Before & You Can Handle It Now:-

Personally, nothing helps me relieve anxiety like going for a long walk or hitting the gym. Which brings us to…

And Being Productive Will Probably Help, Too:-

I realize that anxiety can be so overwhelming sometimes that the only thing you’ll initially feel capable of focusing on is binge-watching your favorite show and stress-eating donuts. Additionally, sometimes a chill night of being unproductive is exactly what we all need. Trust me, I’ve been there. That said, sometimes doing nothing but relaxing can exacerbate anxiety, whereas crossing a few items off of your to-do list can help you feel more accomplished, capable, and in control of your own life and feelings. Plus, forcing yourself to focus on a productive task will give your brain and body a break from the stress of feeling anxious.

Breathing Techniques Are Your Friend Right Now:-

Being mindful of your breathing is so important when you’re anxious because deep breathing actually helps your body to relax and recover after it’s gone through the adrenaline-spiking “fight-or-flight” response that fear and anxiety triggers. So the next time you’re feeling anxious, remember to focus on your breathing. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve caught myself literally holding my breath during a period of extreme anxiety, and it only makes my anxiety that much worse.


Our Anxiety Might Be Trying To Tell You Something:-

Like I said before, sometimes anxiety seems to serve no real purpose, and if you have an anxiety disorder, then you already know your anxious feelings are generally not circumstantial. But if you’re not dealing with an anxiety disorder, and you’ve been taking care of yourself physically, then you need to consider the possibility that your anxious feelings are trying to tell you to make some changes in your life.

Some of the most stressful years of my life were caused, in part, because I wouldn’t listen to what my anxiety was telling me. If your relationship, your job, your spending habits, your sleeping habits, or any other part of your life is unhealthy, they could be what’s causing you to feel so anxious. Pay attention to what’s triggering your anxious feelings, because if you listen to what your anxiety is trying to tell you, it just might help you create a better life for yourself.