”Being Comfortable With The Sound Of Silence”

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“Know from the rivers in clefts and in crevices: those in small channels flow noisily, the great flow silent. Whatever’s not full makes noise. Whatever is full is quiet.”

The Buddha

Most people go to great lengths to avoid silence during conversations. They fill the silence with anything, regardless of how meaningful (or meaningless). It is as if silence has its own gravitational force that pulls words from our mouths to prevent a single moment of silence. Of course, we have all experienced those three seconds of silence that felt like three minutes.

Excellent leaders not only know the right questions to ask, but they also know how to patiently wait for an answer. They are comfortable with silence. If you are not comfortable with the silence, you will fill it with another question that leaves your original question unanswered and squelches engagement.

After asking an employee a question, your patience creates power. Resist the gravitational pull to fill the void. Your silence creates accountability for a response. You would rather wait for a well-thought-out response than get a quick, half-baked reply.

The sound of your silence lets your team’s voice be heard.

It’s kind of Zen-like to say this, but one of the most important parts of any conversation is the silence. Silence can serve many functions in a conversation and how you manage it determines your level of sophistication in communication. Here are some points to keep in mind about silence in communication.

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* Silence can indicate hostility or disagreement:-
While it’s almost never an indication of indifference, silence can indicate that the other person is having negative emotions. When we experience anger, fear, or embarrassment, our thinking brain shuts down. We sit there fuming, unable to speak. Enraged and unable to find words. Afraid and scared speechless.

Some people are completely “flooded” by such emotions. Think of a teenager, for instance. They are prone to withdraw into sullen silence rather than using constructive discontent techniques, talking it out, and keeping the connection going.

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* Silence can indicate profoundness, such as respect, awe or horror:-
Sometimes when we’re listening to someone else, we hear something that leaves us speechless because it really goes beyond words. Listening to someone talk about a dreadful trauma they’ve endured, or a beautiful, almost-sacred interaction with another human being, or a description of an awesome natural event such as a sunset or a volcano eruption are examples. Somehow when we listen to such things, the ordinary “Oh” and “Wow” and “That’s awesome” don’t seem enough, and so we fall silent.

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* Silence can indicate contemplation:-
The more introverted your communication partner, the more likely they will think before they speak. Extraverts discover what they’re thinking and how they feel by talking. Introverts figure it all out inside their own head and heart before giving voice to it.

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* Silence can be intentional rudeness:-
Because of the nature of the normal conversation, allowing an extended silence can be perceived as rudeness, and even meant that way. Refusing to reply to the other person is a way of ignoring them.

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* Silence can create a listening space:-
When you are profoundly listening to someone, you create an open space for them to talk that’s almost palpable. Good listeners know how to do this, and it can be learned. It’s an openness that you transmit through nonverbal means. Study emotional intelligence and nonverbal communication, and you’ll pick up on these cues better.

For instance, if you really are giving your undivided attention to someone else, your pupils will widen. This is a sign that you’re willing to “let it all come in,” in the same way that opened pupils allow more light to come in.

Our pupils expand when we see something we like and contract when we want to shut something out – thus the “slanted pig eyes” of someone who’s furious. If you’re not mindful of this, it’s completely automatic (unconscious) and so reveals a lot to the other person who is savvy about it. However, with practice, you can bring it more under mindful control.

You can learn to give this sort of eye contact to someone intentionally. It’s part of knowing EQ and being mindful. And what a gift! It says, “Open up. I’m here. I’m listening. I want to hear what you have to say, and to understand.”

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* Silence can indicate empathy:-
Silence can be an indication of empathy. When we are really tuning in to how the other person is feeling about what they’re saying, we’re listening more to the tone of their voice, cadence and speed rather than the actual words, and so replying with words may not be the attuned response.

We indicate this to the other by being slow to respond and not jumping into words. Sometimes sounds are more attuned… a murmur, a sigh, sucking in the breath in shock, soothing, cooing sounds, clucking, or shaking the head and going uh, uh, uh. Similarly, we use the sound “hmmm” when we are deep in thought contemplating what the other has said.

Excellent communicators:

  • Can allow silence when it’s effective or called for
  • Avoid being pressured into “spilling” when silence is used manipulatively
  • Offer silence as a gift or sign of respect
  • Interpret the silence of others appropriately
  • Understand the way other people and other cultures use silence
  • Mindfully regulate the use of silence in a conversation
  • Are comfortable with silence and understand its many uses.
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The Moirai (Moerae)-'' Decide Fates Or Person's Destiny''

The Moirai (Moerae), also referred to as the Fates, represent the idea of “destiny” in Greek mythology. The Ancient Greeks had a habit of creating deities to represent abstract concepts as a way of explaining their world. However, the Moirai do more than just represent destiny – they are the personification of it. It is understood that the Moirai controlled people’s lives in different ways from the time they were born to the time they died.

It is interesting to note that the word, Moirai, meant a portion or a part of a whole in Ancient Greek. The connotation here is that it referred to a portion of a bounty, as would be the case if people were to divide up a treasure. Thus, the Morai were seen as being keepers of a person’s destiny, or her specific allotment of life. Here’s more information about who the Moirai were and the role they played in Greek mythology.

Who the Moirai (Moerae) Were

It is largely understood that the Moirai, or the Fates, were three of the six children that Themis, the goddess of Justice, and Zeus, the king of the gods, had together. The other three children were the Horai, or the Hours. The names of the three Fates were Clotho, Lachesis, and Atropos. They each had their own, unique characteristics.

  • Clotho. She was known as the spinner because she “spun” the very thread of a person’s life. She spun the thread from her Distaff directly to her Spindle.
  • Lachesis – Once Clotho spun the thread, Lachesis would measure it for each person. Each person had different lengths of thread, indicated that they all had different life spans.
  • Atropos – She was responsible for cutting the thread, which indicates that she controlled when life would end. She also chose the way each person would die.

As you can see, Clotho was always associated with the beginning of life. She essentially created it by spinning the thread. Lachesis controlled the length of a person’s life, and Atropos was always associated with death. Thus, the three Fates essentially represent Birth, Life, and Death.

The Appearance of the Moirai

Unlike their siblings, the Horai, the Moirai were always depicted as ugly old women. Note that the Horai were always depicted as young, beautiful women. The Ancient Greeks appeared to have feared the Moirai. After all, one of the Fates (Moerae) were said to have controlled every aspect of a person’s life, including their death. As a result, most Ancient Greeks feared them and as a result, they imagined them with unflattering appearances. They were also depicted as crippled, stern, inflexible, and severe. They were usually depicted together as a group of three and they were often depicted with their objects. For instance, Clotho was usually shown with her spindle and Atropos was depicted with her cutting shears.

The Moirai, also referred to as the Fates, were an interesting part of Greek mythology. They were three of the children of Themis and Zeus and they were always associated with a person’s destiny.

The Moirai (Moerae)-” Decide Fates Or Person’s Destiny”

The Moirai (Moerae), also referred to as the Fates, represent the idea of “destiny” in Greek mythology. The Ancient Greeks had a habit of creating deities to represent abstract concepts as a way of explaining their world. However, the Moirai do more than just represent destiny – they are the personification of it. It is understood that the Moirai controlled people’s lives in different ways from the time they were born to the time they died.

It is interesting to note that the word, Moirai, meant a portion or a part of a whole in Ancient Greek. The connotation here is that it referred to a portion of a bounty, as would be the case if people were to divide up a treasure. Thus, the Morai were seen as being keepers of a person’s destiny, or her specific allotment of life. Here’s more information about who the Moirai were and the role they played in Greek mythology.

Who the Moirai (Moerae) Were

It is largely understood that the Moirai, or the Fates, were three of the six children that Themis, the goddess of Justice, and Zeus, the king of the gods, had together. The other three children were the Horai, or the Hours. The names of the three Fates were Clotho, Lachesis, and Atropos. They each had their own, unique characteristics.

  • Clotho. She was known as the spinner because she “spun” the very thread of a person’s life. She spun the thread from her Distaff directly to her Spindle.
  • Lachesis – Once Clotho spun the thread, Lachesis would measure it for each person. Each person had different lengths of thread, indicated that they all had different life spans.
  • Atropos – She was responsible for cutting the thread, which indicates that she controlled when life would end. She also chose the way each person would die.

As you can see, Clotho was always associated with the beginning of life. She essentially created it by spinning the thread. Lachesis controlled the length of a person’s life, and Atropos was always associated with death. Thus, the three Fates essentially represent Birth, Life, and Death.

The Appearance of the Moirai

Unlike their siblings, the Horai, the Moirai were always depicted as ugly old women. Note that the Horai were always depicted as young, beautiful women. The Ancient Greeks appeared to have feared the Moirai. After all, one of the Fates (Moerae) were said to have controlled every aspect of a person’s life, including their death. As a result, most Ancient Greeks feared them and as a result, they imagined them with unflattering appearances. They were also depicted as crippled, stern, inflexible, and severe. They were usually depicted together as a group of three and they were often depicted with their objects. For instance, Clotho was usually shown with her spindle and Atropos was depicted with her cutting shears.

The Moirai, also referred to as the Fates, were an interesting part of Greek mythology. They were three of the children of Themis and Zeus and they were always associated with a person’s destiny.

''Living On A Moment''

You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.

To live in the moment, or now, means being conscious, aware and in the present with all of your senses. It means not dwelling on the past, nor being anxious or worrying about the future.

When we concentrate our attention on the present we focus on the task at hand. We give our full attention to what we are doing and we let go of outcomes.

The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it.

Seizing each moment in life allows us to prolong its value and make it more meaningful. Rather than seeking quantity of time, when we live in the moment we enjoy and savor every minute. We don’t sacrifice quality for quantity.

Of course, this doesn’t mean we don’t need to plan, set goals or prepare for the future. We can do all of these things and still enjoy each moment as it unfolds.

For instance, if we have set a goal to exercise each day, we would carry on with it while enjoying the actual process, or moment, of exercising (or at least be in the moment of it).

When we train ourselves to live in each moment, we immerse ourselves in it and begin to discover its beauty and wonder. We learn to focus and how to manage our energy. Professional athletes understand and employ this kind of focus very well. They know that accomplishment and success are a result of the skillful management and balancing of energy.

To make every moment count we must embrace it. Everything we do and every person we come in contact with deserves our full attention. Even when resting we should savor the moment. It gives us the opportunity to recharge, renew and gain clarity.

Quite often we put huge expectations on ourselves and our lives. We rush to do this, hurry up with that, without actually enjoying the process. What’s the rush? Where do we think we’re going?

If we don’t stop and think about where we’re at, we’re probably missing the point. Instead, when we appreciate each moment and garner the lessons from it, we live consciously, purposefully and responsibly.

Likewise, when we live in the past and don’t let go of painful experiences, perceived wrongs, or difficult times, we condemn ourselves to a present and future of the same. We cannot change the past. We can, however, come to terms with it, know that it’s over, and move on.

Living in the present moment creates the experience of eternity.

Living in the moment means letting go of the past and trust in the future. When we are positive and optimistic in the present, we open the possibility of a positive and promising future. We owe it to ourselves to make every moment count – now!

Tips To Live On The Moment:-

  • Train your mind to focus on the current activity.
  • Engage in, and feel what you are doing. Enjoy the process.
  • Learn relaxation techniques in order to be present in each moment.
  • Take notice of your surroundings – sights, sounds, smells, ambiance.
  • Listen attentively to the conversation of others, music, even silence.
  • Savor your food and drink. Taste each morsel.

”Living On A Moment”

You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.

To live in the moment, or now, means being conscious, aware and in the present with all of your senses. It means not dwelling on the past, nor being anxious or worrying about the future.

When we concentrate our attention on the present we focus on the task at hand. We give our full attention to what we are doing and we let go of outcomes.

The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it.

Seizing each moment in life allows us to prolong its value and make it more meaningful. Rather than seeking quantity of time, when we live in the moment we enjoy and savor every minute. We don’t sacrifice quality for quantity.

Of course, this doesn’t mean we don’t need to plan, set goals or prepare for the future. We can do all of these things and still enjoy each moment as it unfolds.

For instance, if we have set a goal to exercise each day, we would carry on with it while enjoying the actual process, or moment, of exercising (or at least be in the moment of it).

When we train ourselves to live in each moment, we immerse ourselves in it and begin to discover its beauty and wonder. We learn to focus and how to manage our energy. Professional athletes understand and employ this kind of focus very well. They know that accomplishment and success are a result of the skillful management and balancing of energy.

To make every moment count we must embrace it. Everything we do and every person we come in contact with deserves our full attention. Even when resting we should savor the moment. It gives us the opportunity to recharge, renew and gain clarity.

Quite often we put huge expectations on ourselves and our lives. We rush to do this, hurry up with that, without actually enjoying the process. What’s the rush? Where do we think we’re going?

If we don’t stop and think about where we’re at, we’re probably missing the point. Instead, when we appreciate each moment and garner the lessons from it, we live consciously, purposefully and responsibly.

Likewise, when we live in the past and don’t let go of painful experiences, perceived wrongs, or difficult times, we condemn ourselves to a present and future of the same. We cannot change the past. We can, however, come to terms with it, know that it’s over, and move on.

Living in the present moment creates the experience of eternity.

Living in the moment means letting go of the past and trust in the future. When we are positive and optimistic in the present, we open the possibility of a positive and promising future. We owe it to ourselves to make every moment count – now!

Tips To Live On The Moment:-

  • Train your mind to focus on the current activity.
  • Engage in, and feel what you are doing. Enjoy the process.
  • Learn relaxation techniques in order to be present in each moment.
  • Take notice of your surroundings – sights, sounds, smells, ambiance.
  • Listen attentively to the conversation of others, music, even silence.
  • Savor your food and drink. Taste each morsel.

''Human Connected To Universe''

Look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Try to make sense of what you see, and wonder about what makes the universe exist. Be curious.

Our connection to the Earth – to Nature – is one of the most important connections humans have. Actually, it is the most important.

Without Nature, without the Earth, we would not exist. Period.

The Earth’s connection to the Sun – to our Solar System – is one of the most important connections our planet has.

Our Sun’s connection to the Galaxy is one of the most important connections our Solar System has.

Our Galaxy’s connection to the Universe, and beyond, is one of the most important connections our Galaxy has.

Our Universe’s connection to the mysteries beyond is one of the most important connections our Universe has.

Without this multi-level, inner-connection, nothing would exist. Period.

The Connection With Universe-

You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.- Buddha!!

Whatever happens to the Earth happens to us. If the planet heats up, we heat up. When the Earth changes its axis position, we change our axis position. We have long forgotten that the magnetic field inside our bodies lines up with the Earth’s magnetic field, and when the Earth’s magnetism shifts, we physically shift with it.

In the same way, the massive and diverse Universe, with its trillions of galaxies and solar systems, influences everything in the same way to assure stability and balance.

The Earth provides our well being through its well being. Our Sun secures the Earth’s well being through its well being. Our Solar System and our Galaxy’s well being remain stable through the Universe’s well being … and on and on beyond the outer limits of our known Universe.

This connection is why your physical body and all life on Earth have such extraordinary resiliencies.

Like The Human Body

All the planets in our Solar System are in constant motion. Like the human body, all planets resonate, they circulate heat, and they move around a central sun.

Like humans, the Solar System produces energy, it circulates heat, and it moved around a central Galaxy.

Just like you, the Galaxy resonates, it circulates heat, and it moves around a central Universal core.

So you see, every human being, each planet, every sun and star, and each galaxy travels at its own pace and on its own track. Everything in this vast Universe is in its own little world.

Yet ….

We are all connected. We all move together in a fine-tuned and very precise symphony.

 

Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.

The next time you feel isolated, different, or possibly “superior” to any other form of life, think about this connection. Humans are but a small piece of a massive creation.

 

Changes in the Universe affect our Galaxy. Changes in our Galaxy effect our Solar System. Changes in our Solar System affect the Earth. And changes in our planet affect human beings – both are the same yet individual.

 

Learn to balance your self because this will keep you connected to mysteries far beyond the Universe.

”Human Connected To Universe”

Look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Try to make sense of what you see, and wonder about what makes the universe exist. Be curious.

Our connection to the Earth – to Nature – is one of the most important connections humans have. Actually, it is the most important.

Without Nature, without the Earth, we would not exist. Period.

The Earth’s connection to the Sun – to our Solar System – is one of the most important connections our planet has.

Our Sun’s connection to the Galaxy is one of the most important connections our Solar System has.

Our Galaxy’s connection to the Universe, and beyond, is one of the most important connections our Galaxy has.

Our Universe’s connection to the mysteries beyond is one of the most important connections our Universe has.

Without this multi-level, inner-connection, nothing would exist. Period.

The Connection With Universe-

You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.- Buddha!!

Whatever happens to the Earth happens to us. If the planet heats up, we heat up. When the Earth changes its axis position, we change our axis position. We have long forgotten that the magnetic field inside our bodies lines up with the Earth’s magnetic field, and when the Earth’s magnetism shifts, we physically shift with it.

In the same way, the massive and diverse Universe, with its trillions of galaxies and solar systems, influences everything in the same way to assure stability and balance.

The Earth provides our well being through its well being. Our Sun secures the Earth’s well being through its well being. Our Solar System and our Galaxy’s well being remain stable through the Universe’s well being … and on and on beyond the outer limits of our known Universe.

This connection is why your physical body and all life on Earth have such extraordinary resiliencies.

Like The Human Body

All the planets in our Solar System are in constant motion. Like the human body, all planets resonate, they circulate heat, and they move around a central sun.

Like humans, the Solar System produces energy, it circulates heat, and it moved around a central Galaxy.

Just like you, the Galaxy resonates, it circulates heat, and it moves around a central Universal core.

So you see, every human being, each planet, every sun and star, and each galaxy travels at its own pace and on its own track. Everything in this vast Universe is in its own little world.

Yet ….

We are all connected. We all move together in a fine-tuned and very precise symphony.

 

Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls.

The next time you feel isolated, different, or possibly “superior” to any other form of life, think about this connection. Humans are but a small piece of a massive creation.

 

Changes in the Universe affect our Galaxy. Changes in our Galaxy effect our Solar System. Changes in our Solar System affect the Earth. And changes in our planet affect human beings – both are the same yet individual.

 

Learn to balance your self because this will keep you connected to mysteries far beyond the Universe.