”We Will Emerge From The Cocoon, Spread Our Wings, And Fly”

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‘I am closest to my mother, as she is my rock, my pillar of strength, and my world. Not only has she stood by me through all times – happy, sad, and otherwise – but there have even been moments when I had completely lost hope, and her immense belief in me had lifted me up.”

Devastating heartbreak. Sudden illness. Unexpected departures.

Whether it’s a business challenge or a personal situation, tough times happen for everyone.

Trying to “stay positive” and “keep the faith” can feel almost impossible.

And no matter how strong we think we are, unforeseen change can leave us all feeling quite vulnerable and lost.

That’s why it’s important to remember that even though you may feel helpless — you’re not.

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When things fall apart, we sit still.

When things fall apart, we run fast.

When things fall apart, we hang on.

Marilyn Monroe said, “Sometimes things fall apart so that better things can fall together.”

Falling apart is to be expected in the process of life, growth, aging, and death.

What if we stop looking at breakdowns as falling apart, but rather the place between what was and what will be? The time just before things come together in a different way.

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When the caterpillar enters the chrysalis and its metamorphosis begins, we can only imagine that the process of this transformation will be uncomfortable. The cells of the caterpillar literally become what are called “imaginal cells” as the tiny creature grows into something completely different and utterly magical.

Unless the caterpillar undergoes this radical transformation, it will never fly as a beautiful butterfly.

If we don’t break down, we don’t break through.

There isn’t a single successful person out here in the world who hasn’t learned to weather breakdowns and failures.

Pema Chodron said, “Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”

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Mistakes are painful. Sometimes they are life-threatening, or send us to prison, or cause the loss of those we love. Squirming through the discomfort of perceived failure can be downright humiliating.

But when did we decide that worrying and panicking would make any difference?

When you come up against a situation like this remember that on the other end is a golden nugget of hard-earned truth molded from experience. And stretching yourself in that way will lead to expansion.

You get to become comfortable being uncomfortable. We say this a lot. Amazing things rarely happen in your comfort zone, on the couch eating Doritos. In your comfort zone is where you only dream of amazing things happening.

I will never forget the time I was at one of my early team handball practices.  Things weren’t going the way I wanted, I was pissed off, my legs were burning, and I was far from comfortable.  I was in a bad mood and complaining to myself when something literally life-changing happened for me.

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As I turned around to take a look at the other end of the court we were sharing with another team’s practice, I saw that this wasn’t just any team. It was a team of basketball players in wheelchairs. They were going at it hard, leaving everything on the court. Here I was complaining to myself about my legs burning when I realized in an aha moment that I was beyond blessed to have the feeling of these legs burning at all. What would any one of those players give to feel what I was feeling?

Those players could’ve given up when they lost the use of their legs or never started playing at all. But they dreamed of playing and so they did whatever it took to get on the court. Words can’t express how much they inspired me to see my life differently.

Oftentimes when things fall apart, if we just open our eyes, we will see something immensely beautiful.
We will emerge from the cocoon, spread our wings, and fly.

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”Fall Back in Love With Your Life”

 

”You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.”

Albert Einstein

What is your favorite part of life?

Falling in love.

Even beyond just falling in love with a human being.

Falling in love with anything in your life. Falling in love with your life.

Falling in love with friends and new experiences.

The moment when you hear a new song on the radio and you immediately fall in love with it, and then constantly play it on repeat for the next month.

Falling in love with every season, the fall, the leaves, the trees, the snow, the flowers. Each season has something different to offer. Instead of being sad that one season is over, get excited for what this new one will bring with it. There are so many new adventures ahead of you that only this season has to offer. Take advantage of it. Love it. Enjoy the moment you’re in.


Falling in love with a book is one of my favorite things. When you become so consumed in this other world and these other people’s lives. You are so invested in it that you feel you are a part of it. It is truly beautiful.

Falling in love with an animal, a pet or a bird you see every morning on your porch. How they in some shape or form depend on you. The thought that without you they wouldn’t be able to go on. The feeling of being needed and wanted is so comforting and so uplifting. It fills you with a purpose.

Falling in love with new places, habits, and colors. Everything is so new and so beautiful.

Falling in love, getting your heart broken, and then learning to love again.
It’s beautiful. It’s pure.

Falling in love with you and your life. Being able to look in a mirror and be happy with the person who is staring back at you. Being able to understand that there is far more to yourself than just the reflection in that mirror. That there is love, compassion, generosity, adventure, purpose, attitude, wit, independence, and humanity beyond what the mirror can reveal. When you can do that, you can fall in love with the person who shares all those qualities.

Falling in love is such a fulfilling emotion.

It makes you whole and complete.

I love being in love.

It’s just lovely.