”How To Find Myself”

identity“The closer you come to knowing that you alone create the world of your experience, the more vital it becomes for you to discover just who is doing the creating.” “Courage is the hallmark of spirituality. Courage comes when you love yourself for who you are.”

Have you ever asked yourself, ‘Who am I really?’ Am I a father, a husband, a friend, an engineer, a passenger or a patient? The truth is that you are a father because you have a son. You are a husband because you have a wife. A passenger because you are on a train. So all your identities, everything you believe yourself to be, are all dependent on something else. So then, who are you? A father, a husband or a passenger?

By not knowing the answer to the question, ‘Who am I?’, you keep on creating new identities for yourself, consequently going farther away from your true Self. All the suffering in life is because of not knowing your true identity. Until you realize your true Self, you believe yourself to be the name that has been given to you.

So who are you? In reality, you are an eternal Soul. For infinite past lives, the Soul has been hidden beneath a veil of ignorance. Due to this, we have been unable to experience the true Self.


This question – asked so often – suggests that there is actually a plausible answer. Almost as if our being were a fixed thing. People who ask this sort of question are typically struggling with their identity and are searching for a core sense of themselves. The irony is that the more you seek to identify who you are, the more fragile you are likely to feel about yourself. There may be an inverse correlation between the question being asked and the ease with which you experience your life. The emphasis shouldn’t be on discovering who you are (what is buried beneath) but on facilitating the emergence of what you’d like to experience.

Our identity should be seen as an ongoing process. Rather than a static snapshot, we should embrace a flowing sense of self, whereby we are perpetually re-framing, re-organizing, re-thinking and re-considering ourselves. How different would life be if rather than asking who am I, we contemplated how we’d like to engage life?

A sense of inadequacy often informs the question around “Who am I?” As people engage the deepening complexity of understanding themselves, they would fare much better to devote themselves to the unfolding process of life. Witnessing our thoughts, not reacting out of old habit, and becoming present enables us to better craft our lives. As such, the identity that we seek fires the wave of life, enriched by the flow.

Imagine that you’ve been in prison for twenty years, incarcerated since the age of eighteen. You literally have no adult life experience outside of the penitentiary. Your sense of self is tragically limited. You might ask yourself, “Who am I? This would likely provoke a fragile sense of self that paradoxically might leave you most apprehensive about your imminent release. You’d hardly choose to remain imprisoned until you could find your identity. You’d have to permit that new sense of self to flow from your new experiences.

I have worked with people who have been married more or less for their entire adult lives. Upon divorce, they are often confronted with a distressing thought. They claim that they don’t know who they are. More to the point, they may not know who they are as a single, autonomous adult, not partnered.  After all, how could they?  Rather than remaining mired in fear, you’d need to summon up a sense of wonder and adventure. There is a new sense of self-waiting to be born. You get to re-craft yourself along the way.


At the other end of the identity, a continuum is those who claim to know themselves so well. This other extreme also signifies a fragility about one’s identity. To know yourself so well leaves no room for growth. Even more, it suggests a deep vulnerability that is being defended against – as if it were too dangerous to take a closer look.

It makes perfect sense to seek a deeper sense of self. To become intimately aware of your thoughts, feelings, hopes, and fears are obviously advisable. The key is to engage your sense of self as malleable, more like a willow tree than a sturdy oak. The willow is flexible and survives the storm as it bends with the wind, whereas the more rigid oak is more likely to crack.


The universe purportedly exists in a state of flowing potential. And it is essential to understand that we are indeed part of that universe. The goal then is to access that potential, keeping the parts of our identity that continue to serve us well and shedding the old, habitual pieces that constrain us. This process is known as positive disintegration. This permits us to find a balance between the extremes previously discussed and enter into a relationship with self that commits to our personal evolution.

”You Know Yourself Better Than Anyone”


”As the years go by, you get to know yourself better and learn what works for you.”

Marie Helvin

Why ask others for their opinions or thoughts? Don’t you know yourself better than anybody else?

The problem of asking the opinions of others is that they always give you advice from their perspective or their shoes.

All advice is autobiographical. Therefore the advice someone else gives you will be based on their life experiences, their thoughts, their opinions, and their emotions.

But nobody knows you as well as you do. So why even bother asking someone else for their opinion?

We have come to a time of great intensity here on planet Earth. The energies of Love and Fear/Light and Dark have increased drastically and are creating quite the experience for us right now. I’ve come across many people who hold a truth in their heart and the desire to help their brothers and sisters of humanity, out of pure and unconditional love. I’m writing this post to empower the souls that may need a little boost of love energy, the ones who allow the darkness to overpower their heart and the ones who do not yet fully believe in the power that they possess. For the ones who don’t necessarily need it, well, you can take this as another brick in your solid foundation of love.


A lot of us are standing out right now, being heard, being seen and trying to make change for the better. We feel the need to assist other souls through expressing our love and light energy via truth vibrations. We see the world in a different light than others who may not see it or understand it as of yet. We think differently, we act differently, we feel differently and we desire differently than souls who are currently unconscious. We have come here as a family of light, the “Wayshowers” as some call it. We are different and many people either condemn or criticize our thoughts, our actions, and our desires. People will say to you something along the lines of this, “That doesn’t fit into our box, your crazy.” Your reply to them should be this, “I’m not in a box so don’t try to put me in one.”.

This is my message to the Wayshowers. You hold a power and light within your heart that is unfathomable by most. You have overcome the mind-control of the collective consciousness and you have stepped outside of the herd mentality of the masses. That alone takes great courage and strength in itself. I want to help you empower yourself even more. Do not be afraid and keep yourself in the illusion that you are weak and powerless any longer. Many of us attach to the outcomes and reactions of other people’s thoughts when we express truth and knowledge from our hearts. We feel that they are our loved ones and it hurts us for them to not understand us or to understand what you see of the world. Try to look at it like this.


We are all souls, we are all brothers and sisters and one bretherin of humanity. If your family and friends choose not to listen or change, keep speaking your truth and eventually, there will be people that do. Your family and circle of friends are no different than any other souls on this planet, we need to learn to love all unconditionally and it will help with the detachment of the emotional attachment that we have taken on through the family structure. No matter what ANYONE says from this point on, do not let it penetrate your state of being. Detach from negativity and low vibrational energy. People will find anything they can to send you to hate, degrade you or put you down because of the fear of truth and change that they hold within themselves. Do not bury your heart any longer underneath the darkness. Your love is far more powerful. Souls who degrade and abuse others are the most disconnected and deeply hurting souls and they need to be shown great love and compassion. A soul who is truly connected within the trinity of consciousness and has merged the circuit between their higher and lower self would never think of harming or abusing another soul because they understand that it is a part of itself.


There are Wayshowers all across the globe, universal galactic neighbors who are assisting to the best of their abilities and the energy on Earth right now is like never before. Embrace the light and love, continue to overcome your fears and heal yourself and shine for the world with no fear of your own power or anyone else’s reaction. You know what you see, you know what you feel and you know yourself better than anyone else on this planet. Allow no one to ever define who you are through their thoughts. You are your own beautiful, individual creation and no one can take that away from you unless you allow them to manipulate your thoughts and hold yourself in an illusionary belief of who you are. Be different, think different, stay true to yourself, follow your heart, stand strong, walk with confidence, hold your head high, speak loudly and proudly, wear your heart on your sleeve protected with a shield that no man can penetrate and most importantly, in the words of Socrates, “Know Thyself”. One Love to you.