”Make or Break”

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”The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.”

Charles R. Swindoll

In the journey to create freedom in every area of your life, healthy relationships are important. The support of your partner can make or break your dream. Relationships are hard work and an area of our lives that we constantly have to work on.

I made five important choices that helped keep her in my corner and grow our relationship. You can create freedom in your life and relationship by making the right decisions.

 Accepting that your partner’s needs should come first. 

Let’s be honest, we like it when we’re the center of attention. That, however, doesn’t work well in a relationship. This isn’t to say you worship your partners every word, but you do make a conscious effort to put their needs above your own.

A wise man told me long ago that love isn’t a feeling. It’s a decision. Choosing your partner’s needs above your own is one way to demonstrate that decision to love. During those times when you’re tempted to fight—over something that doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things—choose to work through the issue on your own. Choose happiness over being right.

Fostering a healthy sex life.

Sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but make no mistake, it is important. An unhealthy sex life can lead to stress, a negative self-image, and fights. It can also create thoughts that eventually result in one partner being unfaithful.

With the chaos of life, finding time for sex can be hard, but it is important. Sometimes you just have to pull your partner aside and let the animal instincts take over, but you can find time for sex if you decide it’s important to you. We always make time for the things that are important to us.

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Being fully present. 

When you’re making changes—with a day job and other responsibilities—it’s easy to get distracted. You have 100 things on your mind all the time. We go through our daily lives distracted and miss so much because we’re never really in that moment.

Those little moments are what make life interesting. Being fully present allows you to focus and understand. In a relationship, it helps you understand what’s going on with your partner.

 Talking until you get sick of each other. 

I think we all know communication is important in any marriage. You have to talk honestly about what you’re both going through. We don’t, however, take communication as far as we should.

In us, is a desire to “figure things out” on our own. There are things we should be telling our partner, even if they seem trivial to us. Learning how to communicate this way helps us open up in a way that builds a strong bond. It becomes a habit to communicate, and your love grows stronger.

 

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”Our Souls Are Hungry For Meaning, So That Our Lives Matter”

 

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“Our souls are not hungry for fame, comfort, wealth or power. Our souls are hungry for meaning, in the sense that we have figured out how to live so that our lives matter.”
Harold Kushner

Let yesterday and all the days before it just sit and live in the past, for now, I *know* you can do this, and just for kicks, tell yourself you are starting fresh. Let your thoughts mock you and let yourself even laugh at the whole notion. But start anyway.

Now, let’s go back to basics together. Insist on inner peace and harmony with these 7 things that you can’t forget to do:

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1. Breathe life into your body only with love: –Not with anger, or self-judgement or criticism for what you ate last or what you desire next. Just unadulterated pure love. It doesn’t mean you are throwing discipline and good sense out of the window. It just means you are covering it in love, not tension and stress, whenever you breathe.

 

2Decide your own self-worth before others do. Decide today that you are worth your weight in gold, or diamond, or your favorite rare jewel, and watch how nobody can dispute that once you establish your own worth. How can they? You have claimed your self-worth. You are done with this one. Insecurities haven’t a chance against a decisively positive mind!

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3. Accept your loved ones just as they are. That’s right. We’re dealt out of a deck of cards, and we don’t get to switch. It is what it is, they are who they are, and perhaps they are even far better than we give them credit for. So stop changing them. Change yourself first. Change yourself only. And accept them as they are.

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4. Allow none to make you feel small, guilty, ashamed or insecure:-Nobody has the permission to make you feel anything. You allow it. You open the door and say to them, “Sure come in, make me feel like crap, I allow it, no problem.” Without that, they can’t do it. What do you choose then? Choose wisely.

 

 

5. Expand your heart and your mind with books, education, and constant learning:-Learning happens on your time and on your watch, not in school and not at work. When your mind is learning, it is staying young and active and sharp. Read books. Educate yourself. Be learning whether you are 20 or 120 years old.

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6. End your pursuit of accumulation of stuff and replace it with a collection of experience:-The path to minimalism is paved with true peace and harmony. It is pure, beautiful, and one that everyone can travel. It is the joy of seeing and believing that less is more, that we have all we need, and that we need only more inner peace and harmony, none of which you can buy. Collect experiences to enrich your life.

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7. Give yourself permission to be human, to be who you are just as you are:- Can we stop being so hard on ourselves for just a change? Can we not see that being hard doesn’t get us where we want to go, but it only crushes our spirit? Be human. Sleep in if you need it. Eat more than your fair share if you are hungry or craving it. Allow your body to heal from injuries and pain – whether it’s physical or emotional – and allow yourself to be human. Then when you have recuperated, healed, and feel strong again, pick up speed and keep going. You’ll go faster if you are gentler to yourself first.