”Rising Storm-Everyone’s Doing The Best That They Can”

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”Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.”

Albert Einstein

I’m sometimes amazed and embarrassed by how critical I can be — both of other people and of myself. Even though I both teach and practice the power of appreciation (as well as acceptance, compassion and more) when I find myself feeling scared, threatened or insecure (which happens more often than I’d like it to), I notice that I can be quite judgmental. Sadly, as I’ve learned throughout my life, being critical and judgmental never works, feels good or leads me to what I truly want in my relationships and in my life. Can you relate to this?

I’ve recently been challenged by a few situations and relationships that have triggered an intense critical response — both toward myself and some of the people around me. As I’ve been noticing this, working through it and looking for alternative ways to respond, I’m reminded of something “It’s important to remember that people are always doing the best they can, including you.”

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The power of this statement resonated with me deeply when I heard it and continues to have an impact on me to this day. And although I sometimes forget this, when I do remember that we’re all doing the best we can given whatever tools and resources we have, and the circumstances and situations we’re experiencing, it usually calms me down and creates a sense of empathy and compassion for the people I’m dealing with and for myself.

Unfortunately, we tend to take things personally that aren’t, look for what’s wrong, and critically judge the people around us and ourselves, instead of bringing a sense of love, understanding, acceptance, forgiveness, and appreciation to the most important (and often most challenging) situations and relationships in our lives.

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When we take a step back and remember that most of the time people aren’t “out to get us,” purposefully doing things to upset or annoy us, or consciously trying to make mistakes, disappoint us or create difficulty (they’re most likely just doing the best they can and doing what they think makes the most sense) — we can save ourselves from unnecessary overreactions and stress. And when we’re able to have this same awareness and compassion in how we relate to ourselves, we can dramatically alter our lives and relationships in a positive way.

Here are some things you can do and remember in this regard:

1.) Give people the benefit of the doubt:-Most of the time, people have good intentions. Many of us, myself included, have been trained to be cautious and suspicious of others, even seeing this as an important and effective skill in life and business. However, we almost always get what we expect from people, so the more often we give people the benefit of the doubt, the more often they will prove us “right,” and the less often we will waste our precious time and energy on being cynical, suspicious and judgmental.

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2. Don’t take things personally:-One of my favorite sayings is, “You wouldn’t worry about what other people think about you so much if you realized how little they actually did.” The truth is that most people are focused on themselves much more than on us. Too often in life, we take things personally that have nothing to do with us. This doesn’t mean we let people walk all over us or treat us in disrespectful or hurtful ways. (It can be important for us to speak up and push back at times in life.) However, when we stop taking things so personally, we liberate ourselves from needless worry, defensiveness, and conflict.

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3.) Look for the good:- Another way to say what I mentioned above about getting what we expect from other people, is that we almost always find what we look for. If you want to find some things about me that you don’t like, consider obnoxious or get on your nerves — just look for them, I’m sure you’ll come up with some. On the flip side, if you want to find some of my best qualities and things you appreciate about me, just look for those — they are there too. As Werner Erhard said, “In every human being there is both garbage and gold, it’s up to us to choose what we pay attention to.” Looking for the good in others (as well as in life and in ourselves), is one of the best ways to find things to appreciate and be grateful for and we remember that not everything is about us all the time.

4.) Seek first to understand:- Often when we’re frustrated, annoyed or in a conflict with another person (or group of people), we don’t feel seen, heard or understood. As challenging and painful as this can be, one of the best things we can do is to shift our attention from trying to get other people to understand us (or being irritated that it seems like they don’t), is to seek to understand the other person (or people) involved in an authentic way. This can be difficult, especially when the situation or conflict is very personal and emotional to us, however, it is one of the best ways for us to liberate ourselves from the grip of criticism and judgment, and often helps shift the dynamic of the entire thing. Being curious, understanding and even empathetic of another person and their perspective or feelings doesn’t mean being in agreement with them, it simply allows us to get into their world and see where they’re coming from — which is essential to letting go of judgment, connecting with them and ultimately resolving the conflict.

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5.) Be gentle with others (and especially with yourself):-Being gentle is the opposite of being critical. When we’re gentle we’re compassionate, kind and loving. We may not like, agree with or totally understand what someone has done (or why), but we can be gentle in how we approach it, talk about it and engage with them. Being gentle isn’t about condoning or appeasing anyone or anything, it’s about having a true sense of empathy and perspective. And, the most important place for us to bring a sense of gentleness is to ourselves. Many of us have a tendency to be super judgmental of ourselves. Sadly, some of the harshest criticism we dole out in life is aimed right at us. Another great saying I love is, “We don’t see people as they are, we see them as we are.” As we alter how we relate to ourselves, how we relate to everyone else and to the world around us is altered in a fundamental way.

As the Dalai Lama so brilliantly says, “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” Everyone around us — our friends, co-workers, significant other, family members, children, service people, clients and even the people we don’t know or care for — is doing the best they can, given the resources they have. When we remember this and come from a truly compassionate perspective (with others and with ourselves), we’re able to tap into a deeper level of peace, appreciation, and fulfillment.

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”Inspire You To Live Your Best Life”

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”There is a part of me that still wants to go out and grab a backpack and unplug – not take a cell phone or even a camera and just get out there and experience the world and travel. I have yet to do that, but someday I hope.”

If you are an ADD’er like me, you probably need to find that place to unplug and relax. Sometimes it might be a break from work with something as simple as a walk. Other times, it might be a bigger decision like a vacation.

Cell phones, laptops, tablets, TVs, email, Facebook, Netflix…the list of ways you can spend your time plugged into technology goes on and on. They can be overwhelming, and slowly but surely they can take control of your life. Isn’t it about time we were in charge (no pun intended) of our own lives, and let go of our dependence on technology? Isn’t it time we learned how to be happy with ourselves?

If you’re wondering how to reduce tension in your life and be happy again, try living a more unplugged life. Taking time to unplug can help decrease stress, improve relationships, and give you an overall increase in freedom. There’s a big world out there just waiting to be explored, right? So how do you start? Where do you go and what do you do?

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Here are 10 ways to take a break from technology and plug yourself back into a fuller, happier life:-

  •  Turn your phone off or leave your phone at home for a few hours:-Taking time away from your home is one of the simplest ways to live life unplugged. It’s easier said than done, but it’s 100 percent essential to giving yourself a break and teaching yourself to disconnect while you pursue other interests. Go wireless and see what else you notice about your surroundings and relationships. You’ll get more out of the other ideas on this list if you can unshackle yourself from your hand-brain. Emails, texts, notifications, and calls will all be there when you get back, we promise.
  • Utilize recreation opportunities around you:-Whatever region you’re living in, explore your local terrain by using walking trails and parks. Tune into the sounds around you, even if you are in an urban area. Check your city’s website for information on walking paths and other recreation ideas.
  • Pursue a hobby or skill you’re passionate about:-What have you always wanted to learn or do but have never dedicated the time to? It could be anything from rock climbing to photography, making pottery to learning to cook fine Italian cuisine. Then keep at it; it’s easy to lose passion for a new hobby if you don’t dedicate time to it. Schedule time a few days a week to dedicate to pursuing your passions. Make sure to turn your phone and other devices off or put them out of your reach to eliminate distractions. Turn on your favorite music and enjoy doing something you love.
  • Start reading a book in a place you enjoy:-Reading can catapult you into life experiences you’ve never even dreamed of. Make sure to pick a genre that really pulls you in and interests you, even if it’s just light reading. Again, put distractions aside so you can allow yourself to get lost in your reading. Better yet, take your book to a park, coffee shop, or another favorite spot, so that interruptions are less likely to disturb you. Then, start reading until you don’t notice yourself turning the pages anymore.
  • Creative or journal writing…with a pen!!!Writing can be therapeutic, creative, or just a great way to wind down and clear your thoughts. Your life is a story and what better way to celebrate it than to document it. Go somewhere quiet, bring your favorite drink or snack, and just let your thoughts wander out onto the paper. Notebooks can be cheap but it can also be fun to splurge and get one that really represents your personality.
  • Stargaze:-The night sky has, historically, had a profound effect on humans—calming them, inspiring them, filling them with awe. Pick a clear, quiet night, and spend some time just contemplating the vastness of the universe we live in. If you live in the city, and light pollution makes it difficult to see the stars, trek out of city limits a little way, and stargaze while communing with nature.
  • Attend a performance:-Many people have forgotten, but people still perform on stages. Actors put on play productions, dancers have recitals, and musicians have concerts. Go attend a performing art, and experience the joy of seeing someone do something impressive. Depending on the performance, you may laugh, you may cry, you may do a little of both, but you’re sure to have a good time.

”Life: The Force That Makes or Keeps Something Alive”

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“One who persists is a person of purpose.”

Life has a different definition in the eyes of different people. … For many life is all about love. For a few, life is all about religious practices. For a philosopher like Aristotle life is about happiness: “Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim, and end of human existence.”

We all yearn to know the deeper meaning of life. We all want something beyond what we know. We all want a connection with spirit&with the heart of the universe.

As I pondered what to write about” the deeper meaning of life,” I realized that I was trying to figure it out with my mind. I kept staring at the blank screen on my computer and couldn’t seem to come up with anything worth writing. When I over analyze and rack my brain to get answers I seldom find what I am searching for. So where lies the answers or should I ask what is the question?

I find that when I allow my spirit to guide me it leads me to the mystery behind the obvious.  “the imagination is capable of kindness that the mind often lacks because it works naturally from the world of between; it does not engage things in a cold, clear-cut way but always searches for the hidden worlds that wait at the edge of things.”

Some people seem to spend their whole lives dissatisfied, in search of a purpose. But all of us have everything we need for a meaningful existence.

People are mistaken when they feel their lives are meaningless. The error is based on their failure to recognize what does matter, instead of becoming overly focused on what they believe is missing from their existence.

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The question of meaning:-

The 19th-century philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche, for example, said the question itself was meaningless because, in the midst of living, we’re in no position to discern whether our lives matter and stepping outside of the process of existence to answer is impossible.

Those who do think meaning can be discerned, however, fall into four groups,  writing in the Stanford Dictionary of Philosophy. Some are God-centered and believe only a deity can provide purpose. Others ascribe to a soul-centered view, thinking something of us must continue beyond our lives, in essence after physical existence, which gives life meaning. Then there are two camps of “naturalists” seeking meaning in a purely physical world as known by science, who fall into “subjectivist” and “objectivist” categories.

The two naturalist camps are split over whether the human mind makes meaning or these conditions are absolute and universal. Objectivists argue that there are absolute truths which have value, though they may not agree on what they are. For example, some say that creativity offers purpose, while others believe that virtue, or a moral life, confers meaning.

Subjectivists— If meaning happens through cognition, then it could come from any number of sources. “It seems to most in the field not only that creativity and morality are independent sources of meaning, but also that there are sources in addition to these two. For just a few examples, consider making an intellectual discovery, rearing children with love, playing music, and developing the superior athletic ability,”

For subjectivists, depending on who and where we are at any given point, the value of any given activity varies. Life is meaningful, they say, but its value is made by us in our minds, and subject to change over time. It is essentially a sense of worth which we may all derive in a different way—from relationships, creativity, an accomplishment in a given field, or generosity, among other possibilities.

 

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Reframing your mindset:-

For those who feel purposeless, “A meaningful life is one in which there is a sufficient number of aspects of sufficient value, and a meaningless life is one in which there is not a sufficient number of aspects of sufficient value.”

Basically, here meaning is like an equation—add or subtract value variables, and you get more or less meaning. So, say you feel purposeless because you’re not as accomplished in your profession as you dreamed of being. You could theoretically derive meaning from other endeavors, like relationships, volunteer work, travel, or creative activities, to name just a few. It may also be that the things you already do really are meaningful and that you’re not valuing them sufficiently because you’re focused on a single factor for value.

It points to the example of existentialist psychologist Viktor Frankl, who survived imprisonment in Nazi concentration camps in World War II and went on to write a book, Man in Search of Meaning. Frankl’s purpose, his will to live despite imprisonment in the harshest conditions, came from his desire to write about the experience afterward. Frankl noted, too, that others who survived the camps had a specific purpose—they were determined to see their families after the war or to help other prisoners live, maintaining a sense of humanity.

So that anyone who believes life can be meaningless also assumes the importance of value. In other words, if you think life can be meaningless, then you believe that there is such a thing as value. You’re not neutral on the topic. As such, we can also increase or decrease the value of our lives with practice, effort, action, and thought. “I can ruin or build friendships, upgrade or downgrade my health, It would be surprising if in this particular sphere of value, the meaning of life, things were different from how they are in all the other spheres,”

For a life to be valuable, or meaningful, it needn’t be unique. Believing that specialness is tied to meaning is another mistake many people make, This misconception, he believes, “leads some people to unnecessarily seeing their lives as insufficiently meaningful and to miss ways of enhancing meaning in life.”

He notes too that things change all the time: We move, meet new people, have fresh experiences, encounter new ideas, and age. As we change, our values transform, and so does our sense of purpose, which we must continually work on.

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 Because You Live life Matter:-

Surely there must be more to existence than simply assigning a value to what we already have and thinking differently if we fail to recognize purpose in our lives.

In fact, there are even less complex approaches to meaningfulness. In Philosophy Now, Tim Bale, a professor of politics at the Queen Mary University of London in the UK, provides an extremely simple answer: “The meaning of life is not being dead.”

While that may sound coy, many philosophers offer similar responses, although few as pithy. Philosopher Richard Taylor proposes that efforts and accomplishments aren’t what makes life matter, writing in the 1970 book Good and Evil“the day was sufficient to itself, and so was the life.” In other words, because we live, life matters.

It can be disconcerting, perhaps, to have such an easy answer. And detractors might argue that nothing can matter, given the immensity of the universe and the brevity of our lives. But this assumes our purpose is fixed, rigid and assigned externally, and not flexible or a product of the mind.

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Our Question Is The Answer:-

There are other approaches, too. Now that the question of meaningfulness itself offers an answer. “What makes a human life have meaning or significance is not the mere living of a life, but reflecting on the living of a life,”

Pursuing ends and goals—fitness, family, financial success, academic accomplishment—is all fine and good, yet that’s not really meaningful,. Reflecting on why we pursue those goals is significant, however. By taking a reflective perspective, significance itself accrues. “This comes close to Socrates’ famous saying that the unexamined life is not worth living,“I would venture to say that the unexamined life has no meaning.”

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Mystery Is Meaning:-

In the Eastern philosophical tradition, there’s yet another simple answer to the difficult question of life’s meaning—a response that can’t be articulated exactly but is sensed through deep observation of nature. The sixth-century Chinese sage Lao Tzu—who is said to have dictated the Tao Te Ching before escaping civilization for solitude in the mountains—believed the universe supplies our value.

Like Woodley, he would argue that goals are insignificant and that accomplishments are not what makes our lives matter. He suggests meaning comes from being a product of the world itself. No effort is necessary.

Instead of reflection, Lao Tzu proposes a deep understanding of the essence of existence, which is mysterious. We, like rivers and trees, are part of “the way,” which is made of everything and makes everything and cannot ever truly be known or spoken of. From this perspective, life isn’t comprehensible, but it is inherently meaningful—whatever position we occupy in society, however little or much we may do.

Life matters because we exist within and among living things, as part of an enduring and incomprehensible chain of existence. Sometimes life is brutal,, but the meaning is derived from perseverance. The Tao says, “One who persists is a person of purpose.”

”Life is Limited..Live Unlimited ”

“Information is not knowledge.” ~Einstein

A few years ago I was lost. Frustrated. Scared. Unsure. Anxious. Trapped. Unfulfilled. Stuck in a dead-end job. Smothered by society’s expectations. Didn’t have a clue what I wanted to do with my life.

I cared for myself enough to change my life, but I didn’t have the slightest clue where to start. I spent my days wishing that things would change—that I could escape a life that my soul could no longer bear.

The worst part of all, I was living the life that society had always told me to live. “Find a secure job, work hard,” they would say. “Get a solid job and work your way up the ladder.”

I don’t know about you, but it turns out that for me, the “right thing to do” sucked the joy out of life.

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Imagine feeling trapped in an unsatisfying existence. Wasting your precious time doing things that you really don’t want to be doing. Being afraid to express your uniqueness. Having fun on the weekends then dreading the upcoming week. Maybe you don’t have to imagine it; maybe your life is just like mine was, few moments of satisfaction drowned out by a constant grind of work that doesn’t fulfill you.

Then something hit me. It was a proverbial hammer to my head. I’d heard it before, but it had never sunk in. Then, as if out of nowhere, a voice in my head spoke loudly and clearly.

“Discover who you truly are and fully give every aspect of your uniqueness to the world. This is your path to an extraordinary life.”

I followed this wisdom as if my life depended on it. And I can tell you that my life has changed for the better since I followed this guidance.

I can tell you without any doubt that the greatest piece of wisdom that I’ve discovered in my life thus far is this:

If you want to live an extraordinary life it is imperative that you know who you truly are, and to do so you must explore who you truly are. 

These 6 questions changed my life forever. They will also change your life forever by allowing you to find your true self, and in doing so, discover why you’ve been born into this great world.

I’m not talking about the “self’” that others demand you to be or the self that acts a certain way to fit in and conform with what society accepts. I’m talking about the true you—the you who wants to authentically express your special and unique qualities to the world.

By answering these questions you will discover your unique passions, strengths, values, desires, and motivations, which are all yearning for your expression.

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You have a unique purpose. Discovering the answers to these questions will allow you to align yourself with that purpose and bring real magic into your life.

Self-knowledge is the greatest knowledge that you will ever acquire. Why? Because your ability to fulfill your unique internal drive will determine your ability to fulfill your potential, which in turn determines the quality of your life.

The questions below are designed to help to know yourself deeply and find what is truly important to you. We all have an unexpressed potential; the exercises are specifically designed to help you find yours.

What do I absolutely love in life?

List anything that you love about the world and the people in your life. Think about any activities that get you excited and enthusiastic and make you feel most alive. This can be absolutely anything: music, sports, cooking, teaching others, learning, watching movies—anything. Within your love for these things lies deep passion.

 What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

List all of the moments that you are proud of as well as the times that you’ve succeeded. To have accomplished these, you would have used some of your key strengths. See if you can identify why you succeeded. Also, list any activities, hobbies, or anything else that you do that you complete with ease. Within these lie greatest strengths.

 What would I stand for if I knew no one would judge me?

List everything that you would do if you weren’t afraid, even your wildest dreams. This will help you discover your greatest values.

 If my life had absolutely no limits and I could have it all and do whatever I wanted, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?

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Describe your ideal lifestyle. List what you would do throughout the day if you knew that you were bound to be successful, what kind of person you would be, how much money you would earn, and where you would live.

This question allows you to realize who you would truly want to be if there were no limits. By aligning with this you can begin working towards the life that you truly want to create. Know that you wouldn’t have a desire if you didn’t also have the ability to fulfill it.

 What would I do if I had one billion dollars?

List everything that you would really love to do if you had all the money in the world. Okay, so you would probably travel the world, buy a house or two, and give some money to your family. Then what would you do with your time?

This question helps you to think without limitations. When we are able to remove limitations and boundaries, we can discover what we really want to do.

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Who do I admire most in the world?

List your greatest inspirations and the qualities that you admire about these people. Think about what really inspires you in this world. What you admire about others is also a quality that is in you. Know that you admire someone because they have similar qualities to you.

Taking the time to answer these questions will change your life. The more that you can implement your passions, strengths, values, desires, and motivations into your days, the happier your life will become!

You can study to become a doctor, lawyer, teacher, or anything else, but this knowledge will only take you so far. Meanwhile, discovering the deep wisdom of self-knowledge will ensure that your life is far more meaningful and fulfilling. I’ve got a feeling that is what Einstein meant when he said: “Information is not knowledge.”

The most valuable knowledge that you will ever discover is, and always will be, within.

”The Reasons People Don’t Follow Their Passions”

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”Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”

Pursuing your passion can mean different things to different people, but no matter your definition, it seems people always have a reason why they can’t do it. If you’re someone who has always wanted to follow your dream but never gained any traction, here are some answers.

“I Don’t Know What My Passion Is”:-

It’s pretty hard to pursue something you aren’t sure about. If you can’t seem to find something you’d love doing, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle with what our own ideas of what a “dream job” would be. If you feel a little like you’re just floating along the river of life, it might be a good idea to grab a paddle and start exploring uncharted waters. Take a step out of your comfort zone and experience new things. When you’re stuck in your bubble, you’re afraid of being uncomfortable. Branch out and see what’s out there. Eventually, you’ll encounter something that gets you excited. Where should you look? You must have some idea of what interests you a little bit.Do the research, talk to others who share the passion you’re curious about, and put yourself in situations that force yourself to ask “is this something I like?” You can also ask yourself the simple question of “what do I find myself doing?” Everyone has hobbies, of course, but try to look deeper at the things that motivate you in life. A big factor in finding your passion is also recognizing what you’re good at. You are good at something, guaranteed. Maybe you have a way with numbers, or maybe you have an eye for design. One way or another, you have an ability that’s probably untapped, Think of all the ideas you have for what you’re passionate about as flowers that need to be pruned. For your ideas to grow they have to be trimmed down into something that can flourish. Spend enough time thinking, observing, and pruning, and you’ll be able to narrow down something that makes your heart skip a beat. A passion should thrill you to the core and—when you break it all down—a passion is what makes you want to live on.

“I’m Already Too Busy with Work and My Passion Doesn’t Pay the Bills”

This is the most common excuse of them all. You know exactly what you want to do, but there’s just too much stuff going on, right? The truth is, you are busy—everybody is—but by always thinking and saying that you’re busy, you’re convincing yourself that there is no possible way to find a few minutes each day to do what you want to do. There are some job exceptions out there, but you absolutely have to stop pretending like there is no time left on earth when your shift ends. It’s great to have a job while you pursue your passion—in fact, it’s ideal—but it’s definitely not an excuse to never pursue it. There is an almost endless list of great people that worked toward their goals while holding a run-of-the-mill day job. You’re tired? So were they. They had 24 hours in a day just like you. If your job allows it, find time at work to do what you love. Every little bit counts. Obviously, you don’t want your normal work to suffer, but there are plenty of ways to sneak in a little time without announcing to the world that you’re blowing off your job. You don’t have to write your novel in a week or perfect your chicken soup recipe during one lunch hour.

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Move toward your goal step by step. Not only will you see your progress over time, but you’ll be more excited about your workday. You’ll be excited for that 10-minute block of time in the afternoon you get to write, or for that first half of the lunch hour that you set aside to learn how to code.

Keep in mind that pursuing your passion doesn’t necessarily mean working your dream job. There are plenty of arguments that say that “doing what you love” for a job isn’t possible for everyone. In fact—depending on what your passion is—trying to make your passion your job could be a really bad idea. It could lead you to financial ruin or even push you to despise what was once your passion. Fortunately, work isn’t the only aspect of your life (or at least it shouldn’t be). There are plenty of other avenues for you to go after that special something in your life. Work a job that’s good enough for you and go after your dream on the side. There’s no rule that says you can’t do both, and it’s more common than you think. Mike the janitor does improv comedy three nights a week, Marge in accounting is a sidewalk chalk artist, and Billy the IT guy plays the standup bass in a jazz band. If work is something that has to be its own thing in your life, find your duality and do what you love with the rest of your time.

“I Don’t Want to Sacrifice My Free Time”

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Hopefully what you want to pursue is something you already seek in your free time. If not, this one’s all on you. If you don’t want to use your free time to pursue what you love, maybe you’re not as passionate about it as you thought you were. It’s important to avoid burnout, but your free time is the best time to work your way toward something.

This really is the test for how passionate you are and how much you want something. Are you willing to sacrifice your weekend freelancing? Are you willing to take night classes after a long day of work? The time is there, but will you use it? It’s entirely up to you. If you have no free time, find a way to make it. Get a babysitter, take online classes from home, or get a friend involved. One way or another, you have the power to find time for what you love. You just have to find the right balance for you.

“I’m Afraid That I’ll Fail”

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Let’s get it out of the way right now: you will fail. No one gets it right the first time. Failure is how we learn, adapt, and toughen up so we can get to the point where we can succeed. Get over it and move forward. In our world, failure is everywhere, but fortunately, it’s also what keeps us all going. how just having a “good career” is an impossibility. This day and age you’ll work yourself to the bone doing something you don’t love in the hopes you’ll have a good career, but you’ll never be truly satisfied. People get there because they’re afraid to fail to do something else, something uncomfortable. Failure isn’t something you need to be afraid of, but it gets to all of us. Ask yourself “what if” questions so you can see the consequences for yourself. What harm is it if you want to start painting or play in a band? So what if the first play you act in is a disaster? With each failure, you get better and you get closer to doing the thing you love.

“I Don’t Know Where to Start”

Maybe you know exactly what you want to do, but it all seems a little overwhelming. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and you won’t achieve your huge, passionate goals in a day either. Break that big, scary goal down into a lot of little goals. Make each goal a step in the right direction,

  • A SMART goal is SPECIFIC. What do I want to accomplish? Why do I want to accomplish it? What are the benefits? Who is involved? Where will it be located?
  • A SMART goal is MEASURABLE. How much is needed? What tools do I need to measure progress? What targets will I establish as I progress towards my goal? How will I know when it is accomplished?
  • A SMART goal is ATTAINABLE. How can my goal be accomplished? How is my goal action-oriented? How much will it cost to launch and support my goal? What knowledge and skills are needed to reach this goal?
  • A SMART goal is REALISTIC. Why is my goal meaningful? Why is there a need for this goal? Why is this the right time to pursue this goal? Is this goal aligned with my core values?
  • A SMART goal is TIME-BOUND. Is there a timeframe for implementation of this goal? When will this plan be implemented? What will I do within the next six months to reach my goal? What will I do within the next six weeks to reach my goal? What will I do this week to reach my goal?
  • Know exactly what you’re doing every step of the way and make sure it’s quantifiable. When you can see what you’ve accomplished so far, it motivates you to keep going. If the routine is important to you, make yourself a schedule so you always know when you’re making time for your passion projects. Don’t make it overwhelming, but try and challenge yourself. Promise yourself that you’ll work on your project for 90 minutes every day, or that you’ll draw one new picture every evening. Whatever you set for yourself, the challenge will help keep you interested.
  • Lastly, just get started. Taking that initial leap is the most important part of any path. If you don’t know what to write, just start typing. If you don’t know what to paint, just start making brush strokes. If you don’t know what to cook, just start pulling things out of the fridge. Force yourself to make a move and you’ll jump start your motivation.

“I Can’t-Do It Alone”

No doubt, there are many obstacles in your life that get in the way. Maybe you have children, or maybe you have to keep two jobs to stay afloat. It’s not easy. If things are bogging you down too much, remember that it’s okay to ask for help.

being honest with the people in your life if you need some support: Without support, it’s twice as hard to take on the weight of a new project. Passions are things that you have to give a lot of yourself too, and there’s only so much of you to give. Sometimes you may need more than a helping hand, it’s okay to open up about it all: Talk with friends and family, significant others, or even close coworkers. Let people in on what you’re doing and how it’s affecting you. Chances are they’ll cheer you on and do whatever they can, and someday down the road, you can return the favor. There is nothing weak about asking for help. It takes a lot of strength and courage to realize you need it and ask for it.

“I’ll Get to It Later”

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No, you won’t. You’ll just keep telling yourself that until it’s too late. You have the time to do it right now. If you can’t see it, find it or make it, because eventually you really won’t have any time. Eventually, there won’t be a tomorrow that you can use as a starting point. The funny thing about time is if you don’t use it, you lose it. It will be difficult and it may take a long time, but you shouldn’t give up on a dream just because of how long it will take.

”Boundless ‘Ojas’ Energy”

”Choose to focus your time, energy and conversation around people who inspire you, support you and help you to grow you into your happiest, strongest, wisest self.”

It is said that a subtle form of energy, ojas, can help transport you to a world without boundaries.

By our very nature, there is one part which is the instinct of self-preservation — which constantly defines boundaries and protects them. If you go by the laws of physical nature, self-preservation is naturally the main process. If it is happening well, the next immediate thing that physical existence demands are procreation. But that is also self-preservation — preservation of the species. This is all that the physician knows — and that’s good. If the physician did not have any sense of self-preservation, you wouldn’t exist.

Another Dimension

However, there is another dimension of a human being which always longs to be something more than what you are right now. It does not matter who you are, how big you are or what you have become in your life, you still long to become something more than who you are right now. This means there is something within you which does not like boundaries, which is constantly longing to become boundless — you are seeking the infinite itself.That is wonderful, but the problem is you are seeking it in installments. If you go by installments, you can go through a lifetime and realize you are still not fulfilled. You can never reach the infinite by counting 1-2-3-4-5; it will only become ‘endless counting’.Unless you use the right instrument, you will not get there.

Clear Passage

”When you show deep empathy toward others, their defensive energy goes down, and positive energy replaces it. That’s when you can get more creative in solving problems.”

To move from ‘bound to boundless,’ you don’t have a vehicle right now because all that you have is physical. And it is the definition of a boundary which defines physicality. If you are looking for something boundless, it has to be non-physical. You have to create a vehicle for yourself which is non-physical but can still retain a certain form. Ojas is a subtler form of energy, a dimension where you generate a nonphysical energy, but still, it has its own individual form.That is used as a vehicle. If you create sufficient ojas around you, your passage in this existence will be well lubricated.You will see life happens effortlessly for you. Wherever you go, you move smoothly.There may be much turmoil around you, but somehow your passage is always clear, and you keep going.You can live in such a way that other people think you are superhuman, simply because you have a well-rounded ojas hanging around you. In far eastern cultures, an enlightened being is referred to as an ‘enso.’An enso means a circle. A circle is the shape of least resistance. If you create sufficient ojas around you, you become circular in your existence so that your passage into existence is with least resistance. A mediator is someone who has set up an industry of ojas.When we eat food, generally, in an individual, most of the food is converted into the physical body.A small part of it is becoming ojas.When you do your — yogic practices which involve inner energy processes — we are trying to change this ratio; we want to convert a large part of our food into ojas.The whole process of Yoga is to turn this ‘factory’ which makes food into flesh and waste, into a factory to transform the same food into a much subtler possibility, which makes the divine accessible to you. When a person has a huge ojas about him, everything that is celestial and divine becomes like normal communication.You simply see and perceive things because your energies have become so subtle.Why one individual’s presence seems to be so strong and transforming, and another’s weak is simply because of the quality, the intensity, and the volume of ojas he carries with him. There are many things people may do which dissipate and destroy the growth of ojas. Improper attitudes, negative thoughts and emotions, and various types of mental activity can do that. Certain types of physical activity, excessive sexuality, over-indulgence in food, overconsumption of stimulants, and being in contaminated atmospheres can also do it.

Plug The Holes

With Yoga and spiritual practices you fill the tank, but then because you spring leaks in it, it takes so long for a person to build ojas. If you know how to plug all the holes, suddenly you will see that the kind of energy you gather around yourself is enormous. Spirituality means going into processes that can enhance your ojas and change the very fundamentals of your life — to take you to a completely different experience and joy within you, a blissfulness which is not only yours but which will be everyone’s around you.Your meditation is not only about yourself. If 25 people become truly meditative, the whole town will become peaceful without knowing why.Without having any idea about what is happening to them, there will be a certain sense of settling. The deeper one goes into it, the more of a device you become for everyone’s well-being. It is not by merely talking about good things that true peace and well-being will come. Only when people carry the right kind of energy around them, only when their ojas is such that a hundred people can sit under their shadow and experience it, will well-being truly happen.

''Boundless 'Ojas' Energy''

”Choose to focus your time, energy and conversation around people who inspire you, support you and help you to grow you into your happiest, strongest, wisest self.”

It is said that a subtle form of energy, ojas, can help transport you to a world without boundaries.

By our very nature, there is one part which is the instinct of self-preservation — which constantly defines boundaries and protects them. If you go by the laws of physical nature, self-preservation is naturally the main process. If it is happening well, the next immediate thing that physical existence demands are procreation. But that is also self-preservation — preservation of the species. This is all that the physician knows — and that’s good. If the physician did not have any sense of self-preservation, you wouldn’t exist.

Another Dimension

However, there is another dimension of a human being which always longs to be something more than what you are right now. It does not matter who you are, how big you are or what you have become in your life, you still long to become something more than who you are right now. This means there is something within you which does not like boundaries, which is constantly longing to become boundless — you are seeking the infinite itself.That is wonderful, but the problem is you are seeking it in installments. If you go by installments, you can go through a lifetime and realize you are still not fulfilled. You can never reach the infinite by counting 1-2-3-4-5; it will only become ‘endless counting’.Unless you use the right instrument, you will not get there.

Clear Passage

”When you show deep empathy toward others, their defensive energy goes down, and positive energy replaces it. That’s when you can get more creative in solving problems.”

To move from ‘bound to boundless,’ you don’t have a vehicle right now because all that you have is physical. And it is the definition of a boundary which defines physicality. If you are looking for something boundless, it has to be non-physical. You have to create a vehicle for yourself which is non-physical but can still retain a certain form. Ojas is a subtler form of energy, a dimension where you generate a nonphysical energy, but still, it has its own individual form.That is used as a vehicle. If you create sufficient ojas around you, your passage in this existence will be well lubricated.You will see life happens effortlessly for you. Wherever you go, you move smoothly.There may be much turmoil around you, but somehow your passage is always clear, and you keep going.You can live in such a way that other people think you are superhuman, simply because you have a well-rounded ojas hanging around you. In far eastern cultures, an enlightened being is referred to as an ‘enso.’An enso means a circle. A circle is the shape of least resistance. If you create sufficient ojas around you, you become circular in your existence so that your passage into existence is with least resistance. A mediator is someone who has set up an industry of ojas.When we eat food, generally, in an individual, most of the food is converted into the physical body.A small part of it is becoming ojas.When you do your — yogic practices which involve inner energy processes — we are trying to change this ratio; we want to convert a large part of our food into ojas.The whole process of Yoga is to turn this ‘factory’ which makes food into flesh and waste, into a factory to transform the same food into a much subtler possibility, which makes the divine accessible to you. When a person has a huge ojas about him, everything that is celestial and divine becomes like normal communication.You simply see and perceive things because your energies have become so subtle.Why one individual’s presence seems to be so strong and transforming, and another’s weak is simply because of the quality, the intensity, and the volume of ojas he carries with him. There are many things people may do which dissipate and destroy the growth of ojas. Improper attitudes, negative thoughts and emotions, and various types of mental activity can do that. Certain types of physical activity, excessive sexuality, over-indulgence in food, overconsumption of stimulants, and being in contaminated atmospheres can also do it.

Plug The Holes

With Yoga and spiritual practices you fill the tank, but then because you spring leaks in it, it takes so long for a person to build ojas. If you know how to plug all the holes, suddenly you will see that the kind of energy you gather around yourself is enormous. Spirituality means going into processes that can enhance your ojas and change the very fundamentals of your life — to take you to a completely different experience and joy within you, a blissfulness which is not only yours but which will be everyone’s around you.Your meditation is not only about yourself. If 25 people become truly meditative, the whole town will become peaceful without knowing why.Without having any idea about what is happening to them, there will be a certain sense of settling. The deeper one goes into it, the more of a device you become for everyone’s well-being. It is not by merely talking about good things that true peace and well-being will come. Only when people carry the right kind of energy around them, only when their ojas is such that a hundred people can sit under their shadow and experience it, will well-being truly happen.