''UNDERSTANDING LETTING GO AND GOING WITH THE FLOW''

What has to happen inside a person before he can let go of attachments that are harming him? The attachment can be physical, such as a house or keepsake; it can be emotional, such as resentment about an incident or fear of an unwanted outcome. Attachments can be needs—the need to understand everything completely, or the need to force things into an order he can manage. Attachments can be relationships or jobs, or even dreams.

By the time we’ve reached midlife, most of us have had to grapple with an attachment that needed detaching. We will go through this many times before we’re done with our journeys. It might help us to reflect on what the process of detachment is for us because each of us has a process that is unique to our personality, history, and situation.

”When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need”.

While sitting in a Tibetan temple sanctuary, after days of silence in a meditation retreat, I suddenly felt a strong flow of energy and awareness falling deep into the cave of the heart, that spaciousness to the right of the center of the chest that the great Indian sage ”Guru Rama” described as a connecting point with pure consciousness. Although I had been a meditator and a student of spiritual traditions for many years, there was still a twinge of fear, as the sensation was one of losing myself, my mind, my history — losing everything I knew if I allowed myself to fall.

Among the fearful impulses, there was a single thought that arose to support me: “I don’t care if I lose it all — I’ve wanted freedom all my life”. At this, consciousness began falling, falling through my body and into another space, one that had the sensation of ever-expanding light ether, the kinesthetic feeling of love, and the quality of no-boundary, no limitation and no me. Awareness was above a vast sea that I now feel represented human thinking and confusion, where arms were outreached to be pulled out. I had fallen out of my mind! The heart was so expanded with radiant love it felt as if it had burst.

I’ve no idea how long this vision lasted, or when awareness of separation returned along with my body. I had no interpretation at the moment, only the sensation of ecstasy. Later that night I was wired with energy and consumed by joy, so I sat in my car in order not to disturb all the people at the retreat who were sleeping, and I shouted my thanks to all the people and moments in my life that had led up to this experience. I felt completely graced and completely connected to every part of the universe.

This was the most profound letting go of my life.

Since that day I have found many other moments in which letting go was the only way to freedom. Every day there is an opportunity to hold on to a belief, a position, a painful memory or resentment, irritation, or having my own way. In spiritual circles, the focus is often surrendered, and students struggle to “surrender” themselves in hopes of discovering more of who they are. But this letting go is much more clear. It is simply not allowing a thought to control the moment, but instead to step aside and consider “Perhaps this does not matter.” To what degree is the belief, position, emotion or memory really supporting the Truth you are seeking, the spiritual depth you desire, the quality of life or relationship you have committed to? Aren’t most of the things to which you hold the only habit? Aren’t they just the patterns of an identity that defines you as separate?

We, humans, get caught in our conditioned systems, like computers that keep spinning at those moments we are seeking new information. As long as they spin we cannot see what we need. Our recycling thoughts hold us back from the grace of the moment, by generating fear, doubt, stubbornness, resistance, depression, anger — we each have our own unique patterns. The concept of surrender makes us feel we will completely let go of ourselves forever. The thought itself tends to cause resistance as all the other parts of us that want the expression to stand up to be counted. But letting go can happen at any moment, and needs to happen moment-by-moment when we are faced with the parts of our personal identity that are blocking our ability to be free. It is not a forever releasing, at least not at first. We can grow into it. It is in the small moments of taking a position we can learn to let go.

There are many opportunities to practice letting go. We can let go when there is a flush of anger when we are cut off by a car, or by someone in line. We can let go of resentment when someone gets a promotion we missed. We can let go of thinking about the time we said the wrong thing in an embarrassing moment. We can let go of believing we are not good enough to awaken or experience the truth of who we are. We can let go of beliefs about ourselves, about others, even about our spiritual traditions.

These kinds of letting go opportunities do not trigger a permanent shift at first, but are a practice. Some letting goes just happens, like a wave of energy that passes through and drifts into the ethers. At others we must sit with the energy of our feelings, allowing awareness to fully fall into and penetrate what is beneath, get at the deeper feeling or memory, and meet it with love and acceptance. Very often the hurt of the moment is simply a recycling of an event in the past that has not been released energetically. Meeting it with compassion opens our capacity to let it go and to be free to meet whatever will arise next with more openness and dispassion.

Letting go of an issue or position or feeling does not mean one does not respond. It allows the response to come from a deeper place with more clarity and less emotion, to see possibilities that did not exist before. I had a friend tell me once that her grandfather, an American, had taught her to always look for 3 explanations for whatever arises. I’ve found this an intriguing way to explore those things I might disagree about or fail to understand. It promotes openness, creativity and the willingness to let go of a locked-in point of view. It encourages looking from the heart and not just the head, which is primarily governed by those recycling thoughts of our history and conditioning.

”Holding on is believing that there’s a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future”.

Letting go of the little things allows a quality of peace and appreciation to grow within because it opens up much space inside of us where we have been holding on to old out-dated experiences — much like a closet needs to be emptied out from time to time. Awakening to our true nature requires an empty closet, a quiet and open space inside, a fearless meeting of nothing. We can be filled with grace when we are willing to let go of what we think and feel even momentarily, and just be completely open to this very moment. Letting go of the little things is a way to prepare for the beauty of realizing what really matters to you if you are seeking spiritual liberation.

”The truth is unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”

Pain will leave you when you let go”

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”UNDERSTANDING LETTING GO AND GOING WITH THE FLOW”

What has to happen inside a person before he can let go of attachments that are harming him? The attachment can be physical, such as a house or keepsake; it can be emotional, such as resentment about an incident or fear of an unwanted outcome. Attachments can be needs—the need to understand everything completely, or the need to force things into an order he can manage. Attachments can be relationships or jobs, or even dreams.

By the time we’ve reached midlife, most of us have had to grapple with an attachment that needed detaching. We will go through this many times before we’re done with our journeys. It might help us to reflect on what the process of detachment is for us because each of us has a process that is unique to our personality, history, and situation.

”When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need”.

While sitting in a Tibetan temple sanctuary, after days of silence in a meditation retreat, I suddenly felt a strong flow of energy and awareness falling deep into the cave of the heart, that spaciousness to the right of the center of the chest that the great Indian sage ”Guru Rama” described as a connecting point with pure consciousness. Although I had been a meditator and a student of spiritual traditions for many years, there was still a twinge of fear, as the sensation was one of losing myself, my mind, my history — losing everything I knew if I allowed myself to fall.

Among the fearful impulses, there was a single thought that arose to support me: “I don’t care if I lose it all — I’ve wanted freedom all my life”. At this, consciousness began falling, falling through my body and into another space, one that had the sensation of ever-expanding light ether, the kinesthetic feeling of love, and the quality of no-boundary, no limitation and no me. Awareness was above a vast sea that I now feel represented human thinking and confusion, where arms were outreached to be pulled out. I had fallen out of my mind! The heart was so expanded with radiant love it felt as if it had burst.

I’ve no idea how long this vision lasted, or when awareness of separation returned along with my body. I had no interpretation at the moment, only the sensation of ecstasy. Later that night I was wired with energy and consumed by joy, so I sat in my car in order not to disturb all the people at the retreat who were sleeping, and I shouted my thanks to all the people and moments in my life that had led up to this experience. I felt completely graced and completely connected to every part of the universe.

This was the most profound letting go of my life.

Since that day I have found many other moments in which letting go was the only way to freedom. Every day there is an opportunity to hold on to a belief, a position, a painful memory or resentment, irritation, or having my own way. In spiritual circles, the focus is often surrendered, and students struggle to “surrender” themselves in hopes of discovering more of who they are. But this letting go is much more clear. It is simply not allowing a thought to control the moment, but instead to step aside and consider “Perhaps this does not matter.” To what degree is the belief, position, emotion or memory really supporting the Truth you are seeking, the spiritual depth you desire, the quality of life or relationship you have committed to? Aren’t most of the things to which you hold the only habit? Aren’t they just the patterns of an identity that defines you as separate?

We, humans, get caught in our conditioned systems, like computers that keep spinning at those moments we are seeking new information. As long as they spin we cannot see what we need. Our recycling thoughts hold us back from the grace of the moment, by generating fear, doubt, stubbornness, resistance, depression, anger — we each have our own unique patterns. The concept of surrender makes us feel we will completely let go of ourselves forever. The thought itself tends to cause resistance as all the other parts of us that want the expression to stand up to be counted. But letting go can happen at any moment, and needs to happen moment-by-moment when we are faced with the parts of our personal identity that are blocking our ability to be free. It is not a forever releasing, at least not at first. We can grow into it. It is in the small moments of taking a position we can learn to let go.

There are many opportunities to practice letting go. We can let go when there is a flush of anger when we are cut off by a car, or by someone in line. We can let go of resentment when someone gets a promotion we missed. We can let go of thinking about the time we said the wrong thing in an embarrassing moment. We can let go of believing we are not good enough to awaken or experience the truth of who we are. We can let go of beliefs about ourselves, about others, even about our spiritual traditions.

These kinds of letting go opportunities do not trigger a permanent shift at first, but are a practice. Some letting goes just happens, like a wave of energy that passes through and drifts into the ethers. At others we must sit with the energy of our feelings, allowing awareness to fully fall into and penetrate what is beneath, get at the deeper feeling or memory, and meet it with love and acceptance. Very often the hurt of the moment is simply a recycling of an event in the past that has not been released energetically. Meeting it with compassion opens our capacity to let it go and to be free to meet whatever will arise next with more openness and dispassion.

Letting go of an issue or position or feeling does not mean one does not respond. It allows the response to come from a deeper place with more clarity and less emotion, to see possibilities that did not exist before. I had a friend tell me once that her grandfather, an American, had taught her to always look for 3 explanations for whatever arises. I’ve found this an intriguing way to explore those things I might disagree about or fail to understand. It promotes openness, creativity and the willingness to let go of a locked-in point of view. It encourages looking from the heart and not just the head, which is primarily governed by those recycling thoughts of our history and conditioning.

”Holding on is believing that there’s a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future”.

Letting go of the little things allows a quality of peace and appreciation to grow within because it opens up much space inside of us where we have been holding on to old out-dated experiences — much like a closet needs to be emptied out from time to time. Awakening to our true nature requires an empty closet, a quiet and open space inside, a fearless meeting of nothing. We can be filled with grace when we are willing to let go of what we think and feel even momentarily, and just be completely open to this very moment. Letting go of the little things is a way to prepare for the beauty of realizing what really matters to you if you are seeking spiritual liberation.

”The truth is unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”

Pain will leave you when you let go”

”Be Fearless Of Mistakes”

According to experts, we are right two-thirds of the time on an average. That means we are wrong one out of three times. Failure and being wrong can be a very bitter pill to swallow for many. We live in a culture which promotes narcissism and fears failure. They view failure as being a loser. A narcissist hates nothing more than losing. But, failure is not such a bad thing. You learn from getting things wrong. If you always get things right, you will never challenge yourself. Failing is a crucial part of achieving success. It is not permanent, but a temporary situation.

The importance of failure in nourishing our experience and character: “Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.” Failure helps you find your inner strengths which make you brave.Failure is necessary for you to take bold steps. Bravery is learned from failure and pain. A brave step is a step that can help you to keep on going in the hope of a better future regardless of failures. Since our childhood, many of us are prevented and kept away from exploring and going on for adventures activities as it might incur mistakes and sometimes even create a risk to our health. But remember without taking chance and risk of mistake, none can achieve better things in life. A life without mistakes and pain is a life without the scope of growth.

All mistakes are opportunities for growth, and sometimes it may give a new experience and new invention to the whole world. So stop viewing them in a negative way. A courageous mistake is worth much more than a fearful compliance. Failing may be painful at first, but it has the potential to teach you more about yourself than anyone.

People who accept failures have far greater chance of self-improvement than others:-
If everyone were happy all the time, no one would value happiness. You would never be able to experience elation and excitement. Life would be stagnant without any motion. Making mistakes and feeling pain is necessary to feel alive. People who make mistakes are courageous to express their honest opinions. They never run away from the facts and accept the truth honestly. The act of accepting your mistakes is the first step towards self-improvement. A person who fails while moving forward contributes more rather than an individual who is content and would not contribute to anything. Achievement accompanies many failures before actually achieving it. A man who can look past the failures and be brave enough to try is the only one who will taste the sweet fruits of success.A person who accepts failure and is not afraid of mistakes and challenges achieves higher growth and success. He would be the last man standing when everyone sinks from the fear of uncertainty.

Why should you take more risks?

One of the biggest regrets people have at the end of their life is that they did not show courage to take any risks in time. They avoided situations and ignored chances which knocked their door as they weren’t brave enough to leave their comfort zones nor were confident enough to turn the consequence of the action into their favour. Worry and fear force people to live in the past moment wasting the creative life at present. To have a satisfactory experience on earth, get out of your comfort zone and live a fearless life.We all are going to die eventually. Taking big risks that would help for greater change in your life is ultimately going to benefit you. Be brave enough to take up exciting adventures. Struggles would always be a part of an adventure but, do not fear them. They are your best teachers.Do not fear failures and remain away from anything you desire. We all have our fair share of failures and mistakes. They define who we are and where we stand today. Be brave enough to embrace them with open arms. An individual who has made no mistake has not lived his life. At the end of your days, you will not count your mistake but, the things you have learned and experienced through mistakes.

''Be Fearless Of Mistakes''

According to experts, we are right two-thirds of the time on an average. That means we are wrong one out of three times. Failure and being wrong can be a very bitter pill to swallow for many. We live in a culture which promotes narcissism and fears failure. They view failure as being a loser. A narcissist hates nothing more than losing. But, failure is not such a bad thing. You learn from getting things wrong. If you always get things right, you will never challenge yourself. Failing is a crucial part of achieving success. It is not permanent, but a temporary situation.

The importance of failure in nourishing our experience and character: “Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.” Failure helps you find your inner strengths which make you brave.Failure is necessary for you to take bold steps. Bravery is learned from failure and pain. A brave step is a step that can help you to keep on going in the hope of a better future regardless of failures. Since our childhood, many of us are prevented and kept away from exploring and going on for adventures activities as it might incur mistakes and sometimes even create a risk to our health. But remember without taking chance and risk of mistake, none can achieve better things in life. A life without mistakes and pain is a life without the scope of growth.

All mistakes are opportunities for growth, and sometimes it may give a new experience and new invention to the whole world. So stop viewing them in a negative way. A courageous mistake is worth much more than a fearful compliance. Failing may be painful at first, but it has the potential to teach you more about yourself than anyone.

People who accept failures have far greater chance of self-improvement than others:-
If everyone were happy all the time, no one would value happiness. You would never be able to experience elation and excitement. Life would be stagnant without any motion. Making mistakes and feeling pain is necessary to feel alive. People who make mistakes are courageous to express their honest opinions. They never run away from the facts and accept the truth honestly. The act of accepting your mistakes is the first step towards self-improvement. A person who fails while moving forward contributes more rather than an individual who is content and would not contribute to anything. Achievement accompanies many failures before actually achieving it. A man who can look past the failures and be brave enough to try is the only one who will taste the sweet fruits of success.A person who accepts failure and is not afraid of mistakes and challenges achieves higher growth and success. He would be the last man standing when everyone sinks from the fear of uncertainty.

Why should you take more risks?

One of the biggest regrets people have at the end of their life is that they did not show courage to take any risks in time. They avoided situations and ignored chances which knocked their door as they weren’t brave enough to leave their comfort zones nor were confident enough to turn the consequence of the action into their favour. Worry and fear force people to live in the past moment wasting the creative life at present. To have a satisfactory experience on earth, get out of your comfort zone and live a fearless life.We all are going to die eventually. Taking big risks that would help for greater change in your life is ultimately going to benefit you. Be brave enough to take up exciting adventures. Struggles would always be a part of an adventure but, do not fear them. They are your best teachers.Do not fear failures and remain away from anything you desire. We all have our fair share of failures and mistakes. They define who we are and where we stand today. Be brave enough to embrace them with open arms. An individual who has made no mistake has not lived his life. At the end of your days, you will not count your mistake but, the things you have learned and experienced through mistakes.

”Discipline -An Important Part Of Life”

Discipline can be explained as training which will develop ones moral character and helps to produce a particular type of behavior. Training which helps the individual to correct, improve the overall conditions, moral character with the change in behavioral pattern of the individual.

Discipline is an essential part of our life. In fact without discipline in our life we cannot work smoothly. Parents, elders of the family and the teachers are the first persons to introduce the sense of discipline to the children. Discipline must be learnt from the early stages of our life. Discipline ensures the smooth flow of life with out putting hindrance to the individual’s liberty. Discipline teaches us to be systematic towards achieving our goal of life. It helps us to achieve our ambitions.

Our social structure will fall apart without the discipline in our social life. A society without the proper discipline encourages the unsocial activities such as violence and bad behavior. Self discipline is most important to achieve complete discipline in our life and it also helps to develop better character of the person concerned.

Nation cannot progress without the law abiding disciplined citizens. This helps to build up the nation with the proper co-operations and unity. In these case nation can be saved from neighbor’s opportunistic attitudes. Strength of a nation lies in discipline.

There is a proverb rightly said, “United we stand, divided we fall.”

Self-discipline is to motivate self in spite of a negative emotional state of mind. For self-discipline individual should have strong will power to control the mind. Self-discipline works automatically and leads to the success.

His Holiness the Dalai Lama, writes, “Self-discipline, although difficult, while combating negative emotions, should be a defensive measure. At least we will be able to prevent the advent of negative conduct dominated by negative emotion. Once we develop this, by familiarizing ourselves with it, along with mindfulness and conscientiousness, eventually that pattern and way of life, will become a part of our own life.”

Our safe survivals depend on nature. Nature strictly follows the law of nature. Nature is very systematic with its law. The day starts with sunrise and sets accordingly to invite night with moon and stars above the sky. Nature is the best example of true discipline to all of us. The perfect nature’s law/discipline which controls the earth, the sun, the moon and other planets. Dis-harmony among the set rules will be disastrous to all of us.

The ancient Hindus insisted on the essentially of leading a life of restraint. Individual’s energies misused without strict control of mind and body. In that case Discipline is necessary for one’s moral life. We should remember, — “He alone can command who knows how to obey”.

Without discipline there is no way we can control our mind or our senses, explains as:-

“Know the self as the lord of the chariot, and the body as the chariot. Know the intellect as the charioteer, and the mind as the reins. The senses are the horses … He who has no understanding, whose mind is always unrestrained; his senses are out of control, as wicked horses are for a charioteer. He, however, who has understanding, whose mind is always restrained, his senses are under control, as good horses are for a charioteer.”

 

In our spiritual life discipline is most essential. The spiritual activity needs systemic actions with strict discipline in life. To lead a spiritual life, a constant alertness over the mind is needed.

In spiritual discipline, says, “Certain practices insulate you, yet retain your sensitivity at the same time. This needs training and education. We all have ten fingers and though everyone has the ability, only a few can play the guitar.Only those few who have learned how to play the guitar or the flute or the trombone can play it.”

A yoga instructor says, “When I work with clients, I emphasize discipline. That is the most important quality in the spiritual, satiric life.”

“He explains that in each area of our lives, spirituality plays an important role. It influences our outlook and reactions. A non-spiritual person might not engage in selfless service or compassion, whereas a spiritual aspirant will consciously strive to express such qualities in his relationships and attitude. This ability is born out of regular discipline, both mentally, and physically.”

“Discipline works every where. It controls our morals and even our religion. There is no sphere in heaven and earth where discipline does not dominate”.

''Discipline -An Important Part Of Life''

Discipline can be explained as training which will develop ones moral character and helps to produce a particular type of behavior. Training which helps the individual to correct, improve the overall conditions, moral character with the change in behavioral pattern of the individual.

Discipline is an essential part of our life. In fact without discipline in our life we cannot work smoothly. Parents, elders of the family and the teachers are the first persons to introduce the sense of discipline to the children. Discipline must be learnt from the early stages of our life. Discipline ensures the smooth flow of life with out putting hindrance to the individual’s liberty. Discipline teaches us to be systematic towards achieving our goal of life. It helps us to achieve our ambitions.

Our social structure will fall apart without the discipline in our social life. A society without the proper discipline encourages the unsocial activities such as violence and bad behavior. Self discipline is most important to achieve complete discipline in our life and it also helps to develop better character of the person concerned.

Nation cannot progress without the law abiding disciplined citizens. This helps to build up the nation with the proper co-operations and unity. In these case nation can be saved from neighbor’s opportunistic attitudes. Strength of a nation lies in discipline.

There is a proverb rightly said, “United we stand, divided we fall.”

Self-discipline is to motivate self in spite of a negative emotional state of mind. For self-discipline individual should have strong will power to control the mind. Self-discipline works automatically and leads to the success.

His Holiness the Dalai Lama, writes, “Self-discipline, although difficult, while combating negative emotions, should be a defensive measure. At least we will be able to prevent the advent of negative conduct dominated by negative emotion. Once we develop this, by familiarizing ourselves with it, along with mindfulness and conscientiousness, eventually that pattern and way of life, will become a part of our own life.”

Our safe survivals depend on nature. Nature strictly follows the law of nature. Nature is very systematic with its law. The day starts with sunrise and sets accordingly to invite night with moon and stars above the sky. Nature is the best example of true discipline to all of us. The perfect nature’s law/discipline which controls the earth, the sun, the moon and other planets. Dis-harmony among the set rules will be disastrous to all of us.

The ancient Hindus insisted on the essentially of leading a life of restraint. Individual’s energies misused without strict control of mind and body. In that case Discipline is necessary for one’s moral life. We should remember, — “He alone can command who knows how to obey”.

Without discipline there is no way we can control our mind or our senses, explains as:-

“Know the self as the lord of the chariot, and the body as the chariot. Know the intellect as the charioteer, and the mind as the reins. The senses are the horses … He who has no understanding, whose mind is always unrestrained; his senses are out of control, as wicked horses are for a charioteer. He, however, who has understanding, whose mind is always restrained, his senses are under control, as good horses are for a charioteer.”

 

In our spiritual life discipline is most essential. The spiritual activity needs systemic actions with strict discipline in life. To lead a spiritual life, a constant alertness over the mind is needed.

In spiritual discipline, says, “Certain practices insulate you, yet retain your sensitivity at the same time. This needs training and education. We all have ten fingers and though everyone has the ability, only a few can play the guitar.Only those few who have learned how to play the guitar or the flute or the trombone can play it.”

A yoga instructor says, “When I work with clients, I emphasize discipline. That is the most important quality in the spiritual, satiric life.”

“He explains that in each area of our lives, spirituality plays an important role. It influences our outlook and reactions. A non-spiritual person might not engage in selfless service or compassion, whereas a spiritual aspirant will consciously strive to express such qualities in his relationships and attitude. This ability is born out of regular discipline, both mentally, and physically.”

“Discipline works every where. It controls our morals and even our religion. There is no sphere in heaven and earth where discipline does not dominate”.