''If You Make Us Feel Invincible, We’ll Make You Feel Beautiful.'' Uncategorized

”If You Make Us Feel Invincible, We’ll Make You Feel Beautiful.”

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”If you love someone, set them free”

Whether you are a man or a woman reading this article, this will give you greater clarity in yourself/partner and what your/their needs are in your intimate relationship.

Let’s put an end to the needless fighting due to miscommunication, the unnecessary sex-less nights, and the verbal shut-downs.

Read through these tips and I promise you’ll never see your relationship through the same lens again.

Open any beauty magazine and you’ll see article upon article about what women want in relationships and how to get it. But there’s rarely space for men to express their relationship needs. And women need to know. So let’s create that space. Here. Now. Maybe it can be the first domino to start a conversation. You may or may not agree with these. What’s more important is that we talk about it. The following are based on my sessions coaching thousands of men on and offline as well as my own wants.

To feel like your hero:-

We don’t want to be your Clark Kent. We want to be your Superman. We want you to see us as leaping tall buildings in a single bound and catching bullets. Not pushing a mail cart and asking you if we can buy sugar cereal < — Or at least feel that way. And I know it’s our job to get there, not yours. But nothing gives us more strength than a woman who creates a space that makes us feel invincible. If you make us feel invincible, we’ll make you feel beautiful. And of course, you want to feel invincible too and we want to feel beautiful as well. But for men, our invincible is your beauty.

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Acceptance:-

There’s a new T-shirt trending Los Angeles titled “Love Me Anyways.” They should make them for men. Because we need to feel that when we stack the dishes in the dishwasher like a five-year-old, say the wrong thing in front of your friends, leave the toilet seat up, get too logical, forget something you’ve said a thousand times, that you love us anyway. Because inside every man is a boy who forgets he’s a man sometimes. And every boy gets into things, not because he’s bad but because he’s got a curious mind and a short attention span.

Unconditional support from our woman is what will snap us out of our boyish behavior and inject us with a desire to be a stronger man. Only when you accept us as we are, who we are, will we want to become someone better.

Not to be left in the dark:-

So many women don’t tell their men how they feel because they don’t want to rock the boat. Or they’re afraid. The truth is when you don’t express yourself, you leave us in the dark. You’re not doing life with us. You’re doing life around us. We don’t really know the truth of you. You are prepackaging and presenting parts of your life instead of doing your whole life with us. This creates a crowbar, not glue.

Couples grow and get stronger overcoming adversity, not by doing life separately. Know that every time you hold things in, you are building walls inside the sacred space of the relationship. No, we don’t want you to verbally vomit on us. But believe it or not, we really do want to know how you feel.

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Blinders sex is about connection:-

There’s sex. Then there’s blinders sex, the kind of sex that gives you blinders, keeps your eyes forward and intentions straight when you’re out in the world. Let’s face it. Men are going to look. They’re like squirrels. They get distracted by shiny things. But there’s a difference between noticing and wanting. We’re visual creatures. We notice shiny things. But blinder sex gets us to say, “Yeah, she may be pretty but I would never trade in what I have for anything else.”

Blinders sex isn’t just good sex. It’s an authentic deep connection with someone that makes you fantasize about them in the shower, call in sick so you can lie in bed all day making love and eating Oreos. It produces an experience that cannot happen with anyone else. That’s why it gives us blinders. Blinders sex is about connection. Not sex.

The C-word:-

Communication. Without it, relationships are built on sand. We want you to communicate directly. We don’t get clues. We need things spelled out. We are logical creatures. And we understand that if you have to spell it out, it’s not the same. You don’t want us to do the dishes. You want us to want to do the dishes. We get it. OK, then tell us. Explain. Model how you would like us to communicate back.

For many of us, communication is not our specialty. We need some guidance. Generally speaking, men tend to pull from a logical place. Women pull from an emotional place. If you can meet us at logic, we will match your emotions.

Sweat:-

There’s nothing sexier than working out with your intimate partner. Watching you sweat and work on your body only encourages us to work on ours as well. We get to see the raw and real you, a different type of naked. Now, if we do this together, we’re in the act of building something, a lifestyle. We’re not just talking. We’re doing. And that’s hot. We need to sweat and we would like it if you joined us.

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Mandates:-

There is something we get from our boys (male friends) that we just can’t get from you. And there’s nothing you can do to give us that because it’s a relationship dynamic, a comradery that men have with men. You have the same when you go dancing with your girlfriends. And it doesn’t mean we want to be with them more. It’s apples and oranges. It fulfills a different part of us. And it refuels us and wants to be with you more. It’s life balance. It’s also going to sharpen us and make us better men, assuming our boys are not boys but real men.

To have our own lives:-

We may not say it, because how do you tell the person you love to get a life? But we really want you to have your own life. Really. We want you to have your own set of friends, activities, and passions. Of course, we want to be supportive of everything you care about and be a part of anything you would like us to be a part of, but we want you to have your own identity.

Because if you have nothing that is yours, our relationship is standing on one leg. Also, if you have your own life, it forces us to get our own lives as well or risk losing you. Forget legs. Let’s put our relationship on wheels. One is yours. One is mine. And together, we’ll ride.

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4 comments

  1. Very well said. From a woman’s perspective let me voice my opinion as women always want the last word which gives us power – a stupid concept in my opinion but that is where women feel insecure from men. In my opinion, (just my opinion) the worse thing that happened to all people is Women’s Lib. While there needed to be some equalization in the work force(still not fully there) the movement went way off course in trying to accomplish the need of feeling important/worthy. And in the end, again in my opinion, that screwed it up for both men and women. Men have forgotten to be men and women have forgotten to be women. In the beginning GOD created male and female – male to be the leader, protector, provider and woman was created as helper because the tasks at hand are a lot and man needs help doing the smaller things to accomplish all tasks. While they may seem smaller, does not make them less important. All tasks are of equal value to meet the end need. And in all of this – the C word is what gets dropped. Women have forgotten how to communicate because they think it makes them weak and men have forgotten how to communicate mostly because they are just not as good at it. The best thing of this post is the reality of man’s thinking comes from the mind(logic) and woman’s comes from heart(feeling) and both sides need each other to survive but refuse to admit it. Therefore we have multiple stalemates. May we all realize the value and importance of our differences to come together as a helping unit.

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    1. Hmmm it was just a part of me..what I want to share …I do have same opinion in term of equality in everything…this make things balance and easy to work out…and I agree here we have to come together as a helping unit for better things to take place 🙂 thanks you for your wonderful feedback …take care and keep reading

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