”I Love Those Who Can Smile In Trouble”

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” I love the those who can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.”

What does it mean to you to “fail better?” Better than someone else? Fail/fare a little better each time you try? Maybe it means to fail spectacularly! Go big or go home! Or how about failing but getting better along the way—getting better through failure—and learning something from the experience? I believe that is the key: to allow failure to be a springboard from which we succeed and grow.

How we handle failure is more important than how we handle success: –We are all going to experience failure at some point in our lives, and our attitude about that failure is what determines whether we bounce back or fall hard.

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1. Decide you want to bounce back:- The power of intention is amazing, and the simple, conscious decision or desire to bounce back will make it far easier for you to do so. When you decide you want to do something and spend a little time visualizing, parts of your subconscious, intuition and conscious mind all start working together towards that goal—it’s the power of positive thinking at work. Even if you have no idea how you will do it, why not start by telling yourself that you’d like to bounce back from this failure? How you speak to yourself is so important.

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2. When you fail at something, it isn’t about you:-Well, in a way it is, but it isn’t about your core personality, humanity or your soul. It’s much harder to bounce back when you take failure to heart too much and make it about your value as a person. Your importance to those who love you does not change when you fail; your potential to make a difference in the lives of those around you does not change. If anything, your potential increases with every failure experience you have, since the most painful events in life often give us the most valuable experiences and dramatic growth. Experiencing failure makes us more compassionate, and that also increases our capacity to make a difference in the world.

How can you make sure you don’t take failure too personally? Remind yourself—literally, tell yourself—that deep down, you are still you. The failure was just a thing that happened, like a hundred other things that have happened to you. Maybe you did some things that didn’t work out, but if you compare notes with every ridiculously successful person out there, you’d find they all have similar stories to tell. Since you survived, you can still thrive!

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3. Still breathing? Keep at it:- Often when we are rushed or stressed or have been through a trauma, we breathe shallowly and unevenly, which hampers our thinking and increases our anxiety. Stop from time to time and check your body to see how deeply you are breathing, and take a deep breath to reduce your stress levels and reset your brain waves. Some practices like yoga focus on breathing, but even without the exercise element, simply taking deeper, conscious breaths will improve your clarity and help you to learn important lessons from the failure.

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4. Reframe and start from where you are:- In the autumn of 1972, an unusually early frost hit the vineyards of Peachland, British Columbia, Canada. It was devastating: grapes still clinging to their vines froze into little globes of ice. The year’s grape harvest would have been a complete failure, except that the vineyard’s owner, Walter Hainle, decided to make wine anyway. He knew of a tradition in Germany of making sweet dessert wines from frozen grapes, and although he originally planned on keeping the wine for personal use, he decided to sell it six years later. The wine was one-of-a-kind, which means it commanded a premium price. Thus, a lucrative, ridiculously successful new wine market was born— ice wine. It worked with the Canadian climate rather than against it, and it would have never been discovered if it hadn’t been for what seemed like a failure at the time.

The ability to reframe a life event is directly related to our ability to bounce back. Practice on small, easy things, and decide that you want:

  • play the role of victim in this failure
  • let self-degrading thoughts take hold
  • let anger control you

Instead, try to see the situation from another perspective—the essence of reframing—and see what you might be able to learn from it all.

So, when you fail, begin from exactly where you are, look for opportunities, take a deep breath and get back in the game, knowing that you are learning valuable lessons along the way, having great new experiences and living life to the fullest! Vive la failure!

 

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”Life Has Thousand Reason To Smile”

”When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life you have a thousand reasons to smile.”

There is a story of a teacher addressing his students. He drew a dot on a white piece of paper and asked the entire class, “What do you see?” Several students said, “We see a dot.” The teacher asked, “Considering there is a whole piece of paper here, you only see the dot?” Perplexed by his response, the teacher explained, “There may be one thing going wrong; however, if you only focus on that, then that is all you will see. You didn’t look at all the space around the dot.” There may be a hundred reasons to cry, but there are thousands of reasons to smile.

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It is said that we make decisions, but life or the universe may have a different plan. It’s true that things won’t always go our way. However, there are two things to remember: Changes come into our lives, and we can always decide on how to react to these changes. We decide what we’re going to do, and when change comes, we decide how we’re going to respond. This means the cards are forever in our favour. It’s up to us to focus on all of the reasons to smile. There are several.

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Smile for a reason today because there are numerous reasons to smile every day. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have. The person who is sick can say, “I have the ability to heal.” The person who is suffering a heartbreak can say, “I will heal stronger and better, and I will love all the more.” If there is a problem, don’t let it be a permanent roadblock. Consider this smile quote, “Don’t forget to smile” because there is always an opportunity to do so.

 

Smile:) ”To Change The World”

“Use your smile to change the world; don’t let the world change your smile.” 

You are never too old to perfect your smile. Michael Jackson knew “Change begins with the face in the mirror.” Your radiant smile expresses your health, happiness, and self-esteem.

A simple smile has more influential power than you may think.

Too often, we focus on teaching our children about the negatives of the world and how it comes from our differences. This focus on what separates us can foster fear and hatred towards those who are different. However, the people of the world are pretty similar when they’re smiling and laughing.

Countries that are fighting will put all their differences aside at the Olympics and World Cup. Even if it’s only for a couple of hours, players come together to show their love and appreciation for an athletic sport. Could the love of smiling and laughing accomplish the same goal of togetherness? Absolutely!

One of the most powerful things the world shares is the universal smile. A smile can cut through all barriers. It knows no age, gender, color or culture. No matter where you are in the world, what language you speak, or social status, a smile will always be understood.

A smile represents something bigger than itself. A smile represents goodwill, affection, and openness towards others. It communicates happiness and acceptance. It is one thing that connects and encompasses us all.

When we smile, it makes those around us feel good, happy and loved. It’s difficult to frown when someone is smiling at you! It’s even scientifically proven. You know what they say, “smile and the world smile with you.”

Smiling improve your mood. Whenever you are feeling down, lonely or depressed force yourself to smile. Make you feel a tad better, right? We can actually trick ourselves into feeling good. Even though the intention was forced, your brain will eventually be able to feel better for real.

Smiling lets your brain release endorphins and serotonin, also known as your “feel-good” hormones. These help keep stress at bay, leading to less bad days, thus leading to more smiling. So continue to smile for that instant and natural stress-reducing effect! Smiling seems to give us the same happiness that exercising induces terms of how our brain responds. Other benefits of smiling include living longer, increasing your pain threshold and reducing aggression and having a strong immune system.

Our brain can even distinguish between a real smile and a fake smile. One of the most important ways we do this is by automatically mimicking the smile; to feel ourselves whether it is fake or real. If it is real, our brain will activate the same areas from the smiler and we can identify its genuine quality.

World Smile Day is celebrated on the first Friday of October each year.

World Smile Day was created with the goal that the world should devote one day each year to smiles and kind acts. In doing so, we put aside politics, geography, religion and everything else that separates the human race.

The possibilities and ways to celebrate World Smile Day are endless. Consider going around town and doing random acts of kindness to encourage other people to smile. Give out candy with tags on them that mention the holiday. Get a group together and participate in a community service project. Don’t limit yourself to one action – think outside the box and get out there!

Today, make a conscious effort to smile more to strangers you come across in everyday life. The reality is that we have no idea what is going on in the lives of the people whose paths we cross each day. Maybe, just maybe, a genuine smile might brighten their day, even if just for a few minutes.

Find ways to incorporate reasons to smile more in your life.
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”Make Someone Smile Today”

”It’s horrible when someone you know—your friend, partner or relative is sad. If you want to help them, here’s how to make someone feel better in no time!”

If someone you care about is feeling depressed or sad, it is a helpless feeling. If you aren’t sure what to do to help them, these 22 thoughtful ways for how to make someone feel better shows how much you care.

 

#1 Talk to them. Of course, the most obvious and important thing to do to help someone who feels sad is to talk to them. Sit them down and tell them you are here to listen to them and help them talk through whatever it is upsetting them. Sometimes just being a good listener is all you really need to do.

#2 Buy them a gift. Buying a thoughtful present for someone when they feel down in the dumps is a cute way to let them know you are thinking of them. It could be something fun and silly or something they always wanted but getting a gift when they are sad works wonders at making them feel better once more!

#3 Take them on a friend date. Really spoil them by taking them out for a night on the town, to a spa for some pampering, or just out for dinner. Going on an evening out helps distract them from whatever is troubling them and really get their mind off things. It reminds them they can still have fun too!

#4 Send them a cute text. Reaching out to them via text is a quick and easy way to check if they are okay and cheer them up. Just knowing people are thinking of them and that they care about them helps someone going through a tough time.

#5 Send them flowers. If you’re wondering how to make someone feel better even if you aren’t around them, flowers are pretty much guaranteed to cheer anyone up. Subtly find out what their favorites are and send them a bunch. The pretty blooms bring a cheer to any room and keep them feeling positive despite whatever has happened.

#6 Get drunk with them. Okay, this might be an adults-only one. If you want to make someone feel better, sometimes going out for a good night out and a few drinks are the perfect way to really talk it out and take their mind off their worries!

#7 Be okay with silence. It’s important to remember that sometimes people don’t want to talk. They just need someone to sit with them in silence. If what they are going through is really hard then there might simply be no words to comfort them. In which case, being with them demonstrates you are there, without forcing them to talk when they don’t want to.

#8 Go for a walk. Getting out into the fresh air and getting some exercise really helps put things in perspective. Walking somewhere beautiful instantly lifts their spirits. It’s a good way to talk and the exercise releases endorphins which naturally makes them feel better too!

#9 Show them you support them. Sometimes your friends and family just need you to support them. Maybe they feel sad because they feel like a failure, or they don’t know what they are doing with their life. This is where you come in to be their biggest fan. Show them just how much you support them in everything they do!

#10 Write them a letter. If you aren’t good at having deep and meaningful conversations face to face, then why not write them a letter. Truly show them how much you care and let your feelings be known.

#11 Have a sleepover. Why not have some good, old-fashioned fun with a sleepover? Get your duvets in the living room, order some pizza, have popcorn at the ready and just watch movies, chat, and relax!

#12 Cook for them. Cooking them dinner shows you are making an effort to make them feel better and cheer them up. They are sure to appreciate it!

#13 Give them a hug. Sometimes a good hug helps someone feeling sad more than you can possibly imagine. If you know someone feeling sad, hugging it out is really comforting. Or just put your arm around them or hold their hand. Physical contact can be very reassuring.

#14 Look them in the eye. Make sure that when they talk to you that you look them in the eye. Direct eye contact is important to show you really hear them. The worst thing for a sad person to feel is as though they are being ignored.

#15 Forgive them. If the reason your friend feels sad is that you had a fight, maybe it is time to forgive them and makeup!

#16 Don’t interrupt. If they do choose to open up to you, remember to let them speak until they are done. You might feel the need to interrupt, but try not to. They just need to get their feelings out and to be heard. Make sure you don’t interrupt them until they are done.

#17 Agree with them. While you might not agree with everything they say, sometimes people just need someone to agree with them. Even if they are being irrational! Just nod and agree. This way you show them empathy and understanding which they appreciate.

#18 Make them laugh. If you want to make someone feel better, remember that there is no better antidote to sadness then laughter, so tell them lots jokes. Do that silly dance that cracks them up, or does whatever you need to do to get them laughing once more!

#19 Do a challenge together. If they feel a bit lost, why not sign up for a challenge together? If this isn’t your cup of tea, set some aims and goals that you can achieve and work towards together. It helps them get back on track.

#20 Take up a hobby. Distraction is an excellent way to stop someone from wallowing in their misery. Why not try taking up a hobby together and see if this can get their mind off their problems?

#21 Plot a revenge. If the reason they are sad is because someone hurt or upset them—a colleague, a friend, a partner—then why not sit with them and plot your revenge? You don’t have to act on it, of course, but allowing them to get a little angry instead of sad sometimes helps!

#22 Be truthful. Honesty is sometimes the best policy. Remember to be truthful with your friend and help them to see things clearly. Sometimes being honest feels harsh if they feel sad. But doing so helps them get over their troubles much more quickly. You continue to be the person they turn to for honest advice time and time again!

Being there for someone when they go through a hard time is so important! Make sure you support your loved ones. When they feel blue, try these 22 tips on how to make someone feel better, and put a smile back on their face once more!